Hi mums of pandemic babies

I know this groups not been very active for a while and the pandemic isn’t so much a pandemic anymore but wondered if anyone else was in the same boat. I had my first pregnancy and first child in the pandemic and it was really lonely. I still get feelings of jealousy when I see pregnant mums and mums with newborns going out and seeing family and friends and going to baby groups etc. All the normal stuff that we take for granted. I am not annoyed at them for doing it at all. It just makes my heart ache a little that I never got that. I know we got through it and my child is amazing but I still grieve for what we didn’t have. Is it just me?
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Hey!! I feel EXACTLY the same! Literally resented every pregnant mum I’ve seen! I’m pregnant again with my second so I’ll have a chance to ‘show off’ my belly this time and actually have a baby shower which I always wanted to do! Don’t feel bad feeling like that I’m sure there’s loads of mums like this x

@Katrina Thank you, that’s so kind and makes me feel less alone. I do feel bad about it and sometimes I just think maybe people expect me to just get over it but it is hard so I’m glad I’m not the only one. Congratulations on your pregnancy and really hope you enjoy sharing your experience this time and have an awesome baby shower 😊 x

Yeah I’m still not really over it if I’m honest! It’s like the joy of being pregnant went and that led me having PND (think I had it years ago) but got the treatment still on the mends x I’m a message away if you wanna talk about it xx

I can really relate to this. Barely anyone even saw me pregnant. It was a really weird time to be pregnant. You're not alone!x

I can relate. I’m pregnant again now and hoping to have a more normal maternity leave!

I can definitely relate. I cried so hard in my 20 week appointment when my partner was turned away and very nearly birth alone. Don’t worry. Your feelings are valid 🙌🏾 we had it hard!

I feel exactly the same. It’s nice to know there’s others who still feel like this too because I get brushed off a lot whenever I mention it like “covid is all over with now and they won’t remember it”. They just don’t understand how it completely changed our whole experience, especially as a first time mum! I think people think we’re just trying to hold on to it for sympathy or something but it genuinely isn’t the case at all X

I’m so overwhelmed with your responses, I kept thinking I am the only one. I was diagnosed with post natal depression and anxiety related to the whole experience and I still get feelings of guilt and sadness over what could have been. I guess those feelings happen less often like all grief does but I don’t think I’ll ever forget. Thank you all for your understanding, you’re all amazing x

I have since had another baby and a completely different experience this time around . My first baby was born during the pandemic I also feel resentful at times it has been hard seeing friends have first pregnancies so different than mine was and be able to have the support. I had a really traumatic birth first time around and my husband was only able to be with me for an hour visiting each day. Definitely the hardest time in my life. Its hard not to be resentful at times when my friends were able to have full support the whole time I don't begrudge my friends that though. This time around thankfully I had a better recovery and my husband was able to be with me whilst I was in hospital. I was out of hospital much quicker this time as well. It was just difficult not having that support the first time around with scans either

@Charlotte Its really good to hear your last experience has been better and it’s great that you’ve had better support this time. It must have felt so different. I would also like to have a second child and this makes me feel a lot better x

@Rachel 🥹 love it

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