I need advice please my husband is Muslim I'm not.....
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What he is doing is wrong. Providing for you is his first obligation as a Muslim man. He must give you and your children first what you need.
Yes they send sudka home for religious charity but his wife and children come first. They should be completely cared for before he sends money. The amount you're talking about though sounds like it's not for charity but for his extended family. He should not be doing that if you don't even have enough for food. He is mixing religion and culture now.
It is the husbands duty to financially support his family with all necessary expenses. Although in Islam charity is important “ Amongst the Five Pillars of Islam is Zakat, a duty expected of every able Muslim. For every able person who meets the minimum requirement, known as the Nisab threshold, they must give 2.5% of their wealth to charity before the end of the Lunar year. “ Charity is only obligatory to those who can afford it.
I’m a Muslim revert married to a Muslim man. Charity is called sadika, it’s very important. However it’s not generally considered family. Charity is to those in need. It’s more of a cultural thing. Mostly it would be regarded as a respect to your elders and parents thing. As a man I expect culturally he feels obliged, which is absolutely fine. However your wife and children come first. A husbands job is to provide for his family. That is all the necessary things. Food, home, bills, clothes, toiletries etc. Anything luxury is considered something a wife could get herself. You should perhaps seek guidance from a sheik who can provide some referencing from the Quran and sunnah to back your rights. Then present this to your husband. At the end of the day he cannot argue with the Quran and sunnah, and if he feels he can, then you’d be within your rights to display the argument of divorce. As he is not providing for you or his children. Stealing is a major sin in Islam.
If he can’t properly take care of you and the house provisions, he is almost likely able to lessen the amount for charity and for his other family, he should be humble and explain this to his other family, God doesn’t say to give more than what you have. Yes it’s good to sometimes but God asks us .. Allah asks us to give a small percentage or equal to those in need so that we may all not be suffering, and also gives him the duty to provide properly to you and the kids
Nopeee! That’s abuse. According to Islam only wife and children have right on man’s income. Yes he can spend on his family if they’re poor but after fulfilling your needs.
So sending money to poor relatives is considered charity and it is even more rewarding as it means he's upholding the ties of kinship. But as many have said above, you have right over him and he must fulfill that right. Once he has, and he is able to spare some for charity then he should. Does your husband know what you're going through exactly and that you had to resort to stealing? If not, it could be an eye-opener for him. If you have tried, then I'd say to try and speak to him properly agai, letting him know that he needs to provide for you in all aspects i.e. shelter, food, clothing etc
Islamically he needs to provide for you that includes shelter food clothing etc its all his responsibility. He has to do the same for his children. That is your right and he must give you that. The wife does not have to contribute to food and bills etc if she wants to then she can but if she chooses not to then thats fine too.