Blending families is hard. You have been doing a great job. Can you and your husband hire a sitter for the kids and sit down to talk through everything?
By the sounds of your words, this doesn’t look good and when I read it, my thoughts quickly went to the worst possible scenario. We’ve all heard about mothers losing it and harming their kids. Not saying that this is what you’re up to but some of these situations start like this. Mothers getting overwhelmed emotionally and physically that they can’t get out of the funk..(I’m a psych nurse so I hear enough of these stories). Have you talked to your husband and expressed all you’ve written here? If you’ve already done that and he hasn’t changed then it’s time to put boundaries in place. Be firm and tell him what you can or cannot tolerate. Let him know what will happen if things don’t change.. It gets hard when you have no control over someone else’s kids and if dad is not ready to discipline the kids to make it easy on you then it’s time to get out. Recently I got rid of a boyfriend who wouldn’t protect me from his ex. Plus it was hard getting his daughter to behave.
No Sir, get somebody else to do it..I’m good with my two kids without somebody else bringing drama to me. I also worried coz my kids and his daughter had connected. In the end I chose my sanity.
I feel this, I’m so torn about wanting to be here or not. I love my partner and think he’s amazing, I just can’t handle his almost 3 year old son and his mother. I feel like being here is ruining my own children’s childhood. (I moved away from all my family and support to give this relationship a chance without the distance) and I just feel constantly drained and anxious all the time. My partner has 50/50 and I dread the change over day. It triggers me so much that I just want to cry and run away. I hate the dynamic of the house when we have his son. My 2 kids get overlooked all the time and made out to be the naughty kids when that’s not how they are when his son isn’t around; only thing is he works the 4 days his son isn’t here so he spends minimal time with my kids so it’s not like he sees how they are without his kid around and why it stresses me out so much.
@Sla thank you. When I’m overwhelmed my brain can’t finish thoughts let alone get them all out into writing…