It’s such a tough situation. Document everything though! Every single missed visitation. Keep text messages. Have your proof, so that if you ever need it you’ve got it. As far as your daughter is concerned… not telling her plans can help. Make sure that you never say anything bad about him to her. My go-to line was “I don’t know why he didn’t answer the phone, maybe he’s at work” She’s 15 now, and this started when she was 4. It doesn’t get any easier though… she’ll ask about him less and less, until the day comes and it turns into childhood trauma. Mine is in therapy now because of a father that couldn’t be bothered.
So sorry for your baby.. My advice is to not tell her about the plans. I’d tell her as he was parking to get her.