CIO

I’d like to hear some mommas opinions on this topic. My baby is going through a sleep regression so she’s essentially learning how to develop her own sleep patterns. I usually rock her while feeding her bottle and typically she falls asleep. Then I transfer her to the crib and she’s good. There comes points throughout the night where I’ll change her, feed her, transfer her and give her the pacifier. And like 5-10 minutes later I’ll go back in and give her the paci but she still won’t calm down. So lately I’ve been letting her cry and eventually she calms down and falls asleep. I feel SO GUILTY doing this but I’ve done everything else I feel to meet her needs and I don’t want her totally relying on me to fall asleep (I don’t want it to become a habit).
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First off, everyones parenting style is different and what might work for your baby might not work for mine and vice versa. I’ve been lucky with my LO who has slept through the night. But sometimes putting her down is a little difficult in the sense that she wants the paci but keeps spitting it out and crying. However once she falls asleep she is out. Early on I dropped the middle of the night feed and made sure she got all her milk throughout the day. My suggestion with what worked for me is to not feed to sleep. So I would feed her, burp, and put down OR depending on if she is fussy I’d feed, burp, rock until sleepy and then put down. Does she wake in the night for a feed or do you wake her?

@Kavita She’s 4 months old if that’s makes any difference. I’m a FTM so I honestly have no idea what I’m doing or if it’s even considered okay to let her cry it out. I just get so overwhelmed when I’ve tried everything so I just have to step away to let her cry. We were breastfeeding up until 3 months (was hospitalized from sepsis mastitis, so we switched to formula). She’s still only drinking 2-4 ounces. I’m just waiting for her to get out of that “breastfeeding habit” still. I’m hoping once she starts taking more formula at one time, then she’ll start sleeping longer stretches. Otherwise, she’s still waking everyone 3ish hours I’d say.

Possibly look into Taking Cara babies or another gentle method if you’re feeling guilty. I haven’t sleep trained yet myself so we haven’t done any CIO, gentle or not, so I don’t have any advice. But I do know there are gentle approaches out there to help. Good luck!

Honestly there is so much we can talk about. You can message me privately if you would like.

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