Possibly look into Taking Cara babies or another gentle method if you’re feeling guilty. I haven’t sleep trained yet myself so we haven’t done any CIO, gentle or not, so I don’t have any advice. But I do know there are gentle approaches out there to help. Good luck!
@Kavita She’s 4 months old if that’s makes any difference. I’m a FTM so I honestly have no idea what I’m doing or if it’s even considered okay to let her cry it out. I just get so overwhelmed when I’ve tried everything so I just have to step away to let her cry. We were breastfeeding up until 3 months (was hospitalized from sepsis mastitis, so we switched to formula). She’s still only drinking 2-4 ounces. I’m just waiting for her to get out of that “breastfeeding habit” still. I’m hoping once she starts taking more formula at one time, then she’ll start sleeping longer stretches. Otherwise, she’s still waking everyone 3ish hours I’d say.
I could honestly say a whole lot more on the topic but instead I’ll just recommend a Facebook group that really helped me. It’s called “Biologically Normal Infant and Toddler Sleep”
So I’m not trying to shame you or anything I’m just being honest with my opinion. I absolutely 100% do not believe in the CIO method in any form. I just saw a study that was saying in adulthood it’s linked to narcissism and BPD. They’re infants and they cannot self regulate their emotions at this point. When they finally cry themselves to sleep, it’s out of exhaustion and just giving up thinking no one’s coming for them ❤️🩹 it’s emotionally and mentally traumatizing. Did you know infants don’t even know they’re a separate entity from their mom until they’re like 6 months old? Cause quite literally their mom is their whole world and life source. the CIO method was invented by a MALE in the 1800’s. Why as moms would we do something that goes against our mama instinct? You saying you feel guilty, that’s your mama instinct telling you it’s not right. Anytime a pediatrician recommends CIO to me, 🚩. It’s so outdated and so much new research has shown the damage it does to a baby.
Honestly there is so much we can talk about. You can message me privately if you would like.