CIO

I’d like to hear some mommas opinions on this topic. My baby is going through a sleep regression so she’s essentially learning how to develop her own sleep patterns. I usually rock her while feeding her bottle and typically she falls asleep. Then I transfer her to the crib and she’s good. There comes points throughout the night where I’ll change her, feed her, transfer her and give her the pacifier. And like 5-10 minutes later I’ll go back in and give her the paci but she still won’t calm down. So lately I’ve been letting her cry and eventually she calms down and falls asleep. I feel SO GUILTY doing this but I’ve done everything else I feel to meet her needs and I don’t want her totally relying on me to fall asleep (I don’t want it to become a habit).

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5 days ago

Honestly there is so much we can talk about. You can message me privately if you would like.

5 days ago

Possibly look into Taking Cara babies or another gentle method if you’re feeling guilty. I haven’t sleep trained yet myself so we haven’t done any CIO, gentle or not, so I don’t have any advice. But I do know there are gentle approaches out there to help. Good luck!

5 days ago

@Kavita She’s 4 months old if that’s makes any difference. I’m a FTM so I honestly have no idea what I’m doing or if it’s even considered okay to let her cry it out. I just get so overwhelmed when I’ve tried everything so I just have to step away to let her cry. We were breastfeeding up until 3 months (was hospitalized from sepsis mastitis, so we switched to formula). She’s still only drinking 2-4 ounces. I’m just waiting for her to get out of that “breastfeeding habit” still. I’m hoping once she starts taking more formula at one time, then she’ll start sleeping longer stretches. Otherwise, she’s still waking everyone 3ish hours I’d say.

5 days ago

I could honestly say a whole lot more on the topic but instead I’ll just recommend a Facebook group that really helped me. It’s called “Biologically Normal Infant and Toddler Sleep”

5 days ago

So I’m not trying to shame you or anything I’m just being honest with my opinion. I absolutely 100% do not believe in the CIO method in any form. I just saw a study that was saying in adulthood it’s linked to narcissism and BPD. They’re infants and they cannot self regulate their emotions at this point. When they finally cry themselves to sleep, it’s out of exhaustion and just giving up thinking no one’s coming for them ❤️‍🩹 it’s emotionally and mentally traumatizing. Did you know infants don’t even know they’re a separate entity from their mom until they’re like 6 months old? Cause quite literally their mom is their whole world and life source. the CIO method was invented by a MALE in the 1800’s. Why as moms would we do something that goes against our mama instinct? You saying you feel guilty, that’s your mama instinct telling you it’s not right. Anytime a pediatrician recommends CIO to me, 🚩. It’s so outdated and so much new research has shown the damage it does to a baby.