My mom is so disrespectful

Trigger warning child abuse *** So it’s I was little my mom was very abusive I was the only girl and the youngest. I was never enough , should of died/aborted me, held my head till I couldn’t breathe underwater , beat me , called me a whore and stated what did I do to get molested it was my fault when I was touched by a family member when I was 6 , took my abusers side when I got into my first relationship and told me good it’s what I deserve and why she did it that everyone else would and should beat me , pos , ugly fat lost goes on . Well I’ve distanced myself as much as possible as she laughs it off and says it wasn’t that big of a deal…. But till this day if I ever get ready she says if u would look like that every day ur ex would want u (the abuser ) we broke up 8 years ago . Anyways I now purchased there old home as they put it up for sale and we went ahead and legally purchased the home from my parents . Well we’ve changed locks in the house and she still managed to show up when I’m not home ( my husband or sitter will be home with the kids ) barges in starts cleaning and saying how she’s gonna kick us out but we bought the home through a realtor not private . And u guys my home might have dishes in the sink or toy room will at times have toys from the days use and starts gagging saying how dirty and lazy , cleans throws things away like paperwork in our office and what not . I’ve asked her to leave even pushed her once which I’m not happy about but she was calling my husband names for napping when she got here (he works 5x a week 12 hour shift sometimes 14 ) so she’s pissed that he was sleeping when she arrived . I can’t believe I’m going to have to call police if she continues how crazy is that that it’s become my only option . My children will open the door since sometimes she stops by to get any old mail we never know if it’s just to drop something off or pick something up and then my husband isn’t rude because my mom will never stop. But I’m so damn tired of it . I’ve gone to therapy and have come along ways. I know she’s mentally struggling and has always struggled with keeping anyone around . My dad hasn’t left her because he’s scared of what she’ll do or happen to her . She’s old school Mexican and just goes off bitchin and criticizing people. Runs to her family to talk shit then wonders why they talk shit but she does it to get some kind of love or care since all 13 sisters and brothers don’t speak to her unless it’s holidays or because they feel bad but they all talk shit and think she’s a liar . My brothers just use her and she puts them on pedal stools and they are gods but they use her , ask her for money , disrespect her , drink and drive and awful people but to her I will never compare yet I have a masters degree, hands on with my kids have an amazing relationship and never received anything like my brothers and their wives . I literally don’t say anything because I’m scared I’ll lose my shit and never wanna shove her let alone hit my mother. And I definitely feel like at times I’m still under her control and worried about displeasing or as if I can prove I’m enough so I find my self still focused on doing what she wants so she can somewhat be happy with me . Or not talk shit but I’m stupid I know it’ll never stop my dad can’t stop her and has literally tried dragging her out and she just doesn’t listen so he’s like u know ur mom … idk if I’m looking to vent or relate or what the hell but I’m just furious because she’s out in our garage going through moving boxes saying it’s trash and gaggin our garage because she smelt marijuana that came from our outside table (joints in ashtray ) near the garage and I literally just wanna strangle her lol but no really just wanna kick her out but I know she won’t leave so fuck getting her more mad. God why !