What the hell

Ight listen I know I’m not crazy when it comes to this but help I am currently 33w3d with my first kid. Me and the baby daddy are talking about more than one kid. I told him no, if I am having a child that is MINE again, it’s not going to happen because I don’t want one besides the one we are going to have.(because I know for a fact a second child wouldn’t be a good idea for me or him) But I also said that if I’m getting paid as a surrogate then I wouldn’t mind having another kid. Because it wouldn’t be mine technically- He said he wanted to adopt kids, a bunch of kids (he has a vision of fostering a bunch of kids and having a huge family) I told him I don’t see myself raising a bunch of kids. He said “you don’t have to raise the kids I will” Now this isn’t coming from a bad place but he can barely take care of himself or the house he lives in — Back on the surrogate thing — his argument “I don’t want another man’s nut in my woman” My argument “I don’t want my man’s nut in another woman” Argument insure where he tries to flip it on me —

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Honestly I get he wants kids and all I do, but the fact he won’t let you be a surrogate for another family BECAUSE OF SOME CHILDISH REASON is getting me mad tbh because you want a family right? Why not give someone else that opportunity to have a child to raise and love? Why not give someone else a family they can’t have or start on there own???

If he wants a big family so bad he should understand that you would be helping someone start there own

Y’all should have had the kids conversation before things got serious. I wouldn’t have moved forward with someone that wasn’t on the same page as me as far as having kids. Aside from that does he really think surrogates have sex with someone else to conceive? 🙄 I’m sorry but he’s dumb for that one.

I would wait until your baby is here before deciding about any other kids. Having a baby is hard, hopefully it’ll put him off

@Jasmine we really didn’t get a chance to talk about anything serious before I got pregnant lmao And he doesn’t think we have sex he just doesn’t “want another man’s nut” in me

Girl both y’all need to slow down, enjoy the one that’s not even here yet. If it’s a deal breaker for either of you to. It get your way then obvi act now. If not then cross that bridge when it comes, you or he may change your mind for a multitude of reasons. If it’s not a deal breaker and one or both of you can compromise then move on from this tangent for now because it doesn’t really matter when baby #1 ain’t even out the yoni yet .

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