Baby Daddy Troubles
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@Lara yea I'm very excited about being a mom regardless of how he feels it's just rough
Oh no, Mama, he was never your friend. You need to keep it neutral so he doesn't try to ghost you and take him to child support when the child is born. I wish you the best of luck hun♥️
Yeah it's a fact I'm trying to learn to live with; he won't even talk to me about anything baby related cuz it's “weird and it makes him uncomfortable” word for word what he's said -_-
@Jewlz wow! It's more messed up because he knew this was a possibility like come on.
That's how I feel but he's blamming my birth control
That's not cool! I would get full custody of the baby first and it sounds like that'll be easy since he doesn't want anything to do with the baby and then make sure he's responsible with child support
@Jewlz omg he is so irresponsable
Raw sex with your "best friend" sounds concerning. I really want you to identify what lead you there and try something different next time. As for the whole coparenting thing, only time will tell. Whatever happens, keep yourself safe from potential outcomes like this in the future.
Yep, that’s just a manipulative man. He was never your friend, let alone your best friend. He was definitely using you. I’m so sorry. I wouldn’t want such an awful person to raise my children anyways.
Yeah make sure you get money from him. He needs to be held financially responsible. & for your maternity care.
Child support.
@Stephany I know and he says he doesn't want to talk about anything to do with the baby because and I quote “weird and uncomfortable” ... -_-
@👑Jess👑 we tried to give “us” a shot but it wasn't working so we called it to sace the friendship then two weeks later found out I was pregnant. And “raw” cuz I was on bc and he had a vasectomy or so I thought 🙄🙄
@Lauren he's a really good dad to his other two kids and we've been friends for year's and I've never see him do anything like this to me or anyone 😢
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@Jewlz ma'am, that differs from what you said before, but if you wanna go with lying to yourself, cool 🤷🏾♀️. You literally said it was blamed on his non-vasectomy, so how is it now vasectomy + bc? Just say you weren't using contraception and take some accountability. You didn't say anything about a relationship. You said "we decided to have sex". You don't need to lie to a bunch of strangers on the internet. We don't even know you, but the lack of self accountability is insane here. You could have just posted incognito if you were ashamed of the sorry details.
@👑Jess👑 because he told me he had a vasectomy so that's why the decision for no concom was made when we found out I was pregnant he told me the truth
@👑Jess👑 I never said I didn't take birth control pills. But I take them for my period not contraceptive reasons but I also Dont always take them like I should which I told him 4 times. There wasn't a relationship we had sex twice we tried to see if we could be more but it failed really early and he is/was my best friend obvi regardless there are emotions there. I'm not lying to anyone and obvi I spread my legs and agreed to sex I'm not putting on the blame on him I never said I was. The point of the post is “my best friend lied to me about having a vasectomy got me pregnant and dipped as dad but still wants to be friends” not “here's every single detail about how I got pregnant that's irrelevant to him lying and dipping and wanting to start friends”
@Jewlz I think you need to take a hard look at your relationship with this man. He lied to you about getting a vasectomy. That is a huge manipulation, yet you seem to keep defending him. Like I said, I don’t care how long you’ve known him, he is using you.
@Lauren I agree with u that he is. And I know that I do defend him. I want to not but everytime I go to say something I think of my parents and how they talked trash about each other and I Dont wanna be that mom so I defend him instead; I am in counseling to try to deal with not only my warped feelings with child support but my feelings for him too. I just want to be the best mom I can be 😢
@👑Jess👑 also I'm not ashamed of my story I love my story even if it's shitty because it gave me my kid. I just didn't feel like a 3 pg paper on all of our details was relevant to get help on others thoughts on how to deal with him
That’s not “friend” behaviour and super manipulative, to lie about contraception… I don’t think you should stay in this “friendship” but I would try to make sure that you get what he legally owes you/ baby, as it’s just as much his responsibility as yours! Apart from that, congrats if you do look forward to having this baby, sorry you have to be in a situation like this though!