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SMP

Am I being out of order to my partner?
I have just received my first months SMP pay.
We knew things were going to be tight for paying bills. So to help out financially I have done extra work this month at a second job to help pay a little extra towards bills and to be able to have some extra cash for day to day life.
I must’ve work well this month as I have nearly enough to cover half of our joint bills. However my partner is now saying that I can pay everything I have towards our bills leaving me with nothing, but he can’t spare the extra £200 difference because he can’t afford it 🤯

I’m sorry but I’m feeling this is really out of order and unfair? Firstly I have been out and worked my butt off in a manual labour job, whilst looking after our now 7 month old baby to earn this money to help our family through the next 3 months only to have to carry on paying my usual share of the bills leaving me with absolutely nothing 😤

He can’t see why I have and issue and why I feel so disappointed in his lack of help.

Like am I just too old school in my thinking that a man should be providing for his family?
At this point I feel like I should just return to my full time job and figure out how to juggle working full time whilst looking after our child as she doesn’t go to nursery until January

Any mommies here like to be on the phone or text throughout the day

I am looking for more mommies in any area who don't mind texting or being otp. I am currently located in Indiana but don't mind long distance. Im open to do a group chat as well if that works better.

Friendss

Hey! Looking for friends! I have noticed my friends have been unsupportive towards me/barely text & just looking to make a new group of friends!! ☺️ My daughter is 6 months old!

I want to leave my husband

My baby is 11 months old and since he was born I resent my husband and just don’t love him.

I want to leave but financially that would be stupid as he earns a lot of money and I wouldn’t have anything to my name.

I don’t see our relationship getting better he never helps out because he’s always working but I don’t think that’s fair on me.

Mom friends in near Lancaster PA!

Hoping to find one of those Mom friends that would like to talk to you each day during the workday just to make them better and faster. And then even on to have little friends for our son who's just 2 1/2.

I feel so sad. //31 weeks pregnant twins

Lately I been not in a great headspace and been crying a lot almost like grieving over the fact that I do not have any of my so called friends messaging me since being pregnant or making an effort to come over to hang out. It would mainly be me offering to meet up in town or a small hang out area but ..The plan never goes through but since then I realised not a single so called "friends" have even bothered to check up on me or ask how the pregnancy is going as time has gotten closer and the third trimester being really difficult right now..
For example, around the end of September, I knew one of my mates were going to be out of England for a month, and I wanted to see them before they left. They never told me when other than the beginning of October, so I tried to see if they wanted to meet up, but they kept avoiding the suggestion, and I thought that was weird. Then I didn't hear from them after thar until I found out they been out of England and didn't even bother to tell me....To top it off was active all that entire month on social amd I tried messaging but dead silence for an entire month. But as soon as they sneaked back to England and still no messages. The only thing I got from them was a stupid reel, no message... I felt so deflated at this point and realised I don't think I can be friends with them knowing I have been friends with them for 4 years and had a good friendship..It was like I couldn't recognise who I was messaging or hanging out with...So I have spent couple weeks just meltdown after meltdown about it realising I have no friends who care...
My other mate isn't any better ether she hadn't messaged me once. Who knew about the pregnancy and no messages off of her. She posted that she is having a Halloween night with her mate, and I haven't heard from her since she messaged in early September and saying she was pregnant then messaged shortly after that said she muscarried unfortunately but i tried to keep in touch worrying about how she was coping but leading up to that she didn't message or respond to my previous messages.

So I'm just so embarrassed and upset about the realisation that I'm alone, no friends, no work mates messaging me since I have been on maternity leave, and I just feel so disconnected as a 25 year old I should have some women friends about at least but no..The only person that is helping ne get through it is my partner and his mum and his dad side of the family.

Does anyone relate..

Searching for some friends 💕

Long distance or close by don’t matter to me 😊 would love someone to talk to that doesn’t end after a day! lol we can talk about anything. I’m an open book. I don’t judge, I love being there for people. I’m the type that you can always vent too💕I have snap ☺️let’s be besties??

baby daddy relationship rant lol

He was recently offered a job at a strip club though and I can’t lie I’m way too insecure to continue any sort of romantic relationship with him because of that.

We separated 5 months ago (mutually) and have been recently having lots of sex and still going on dates as of almost 3 months ago. Our daughter is 10 months and we’ve gotten comfortable with the idea of us working out as a family again.

It just sucks though bc this company he was working for got a new contract for a buy out and he’s going to be let go. He had 4-5 weeks to prepare himself to get into another position at work but instead he decided to wait until the last minute and unfortunately now there’s no availability left.

Two days ago he got an offer for a different job & texted me asking me what I thought about him working as a bouncer and indoor security at a strip club for minimum wage + tips and it made me SICKK. Nothing wrong with strippers or clubs tbh, but the idea of the loml working with mostly naked women makes me want to throw the fuck up!

Turns out it’s a very private and exclusive club with only 1-2 clients per night who spent upwards of 5-10k per night which only makes me think this is a pay for sex kinda place. Not even just a regular club.

He asked me what I thought. I was honest about it making me sick but I did try to not come off as too jealous or insecure and said how the money would be the same at a restaurant (if he wanted minimum wage + tips so bad, be a server hello?!)

His response was he doesn’t think he fits the aesthetic of a server rn. I didn’t have anything else to say to him after he tried convincing me it’s a great and perfect idea. And honestly, if he wants to do it, I am absolutely not one to stop him. I’m not his wife. But I don’t know if I can pursue a relationship anymore & try to grow from what we have to something beautiful and solid. I just can’t.

He asked me if I’d hate him if he did it and I said I don’t know.

Because I don’t! I don’t want him working at some sex club going from $40 an hour to $16.90 but he’s actually treating it like his only option. Am I throwing away a family over something stupid? Should I just get over it? 💔

Any bi moms in nc

Want more likeminded friends. I’m a bi mom of 2 and I have no bi friends. Comment and I’ll message you! ❤️

Looking for my village

Looking for my village of friends. I need someone I can talk to no matter the time, FaceTime when we’re comfortable, call/text, send memes, vent, whatever it may be. Every time I think I have made a connection the conversation stops it’s honestly exhausting and makes me kind of sad…
I’m 29, married and I have three kids. My boys are 9 and 3 and my babygirl is 15 months old. I’m a stay at home mom and I live in California. I like being crafty, I watch a little bit of everything, coffee, Dr Pepper, I can’t smoke 🍃 but no judgement if you do (420 friendly), I rarely drink but when I do it’s usually a margarita, I don’t really care for makeup - you might catch me wearing it once or twice a year, I don’t get my nails done a bunch or my hair either. I don’t have anyone to go do that stuff with….if I did I probably would. I have a RBF but I promise I don’t bite 🥹
If you think we might become friends feel free to comment and I’ll message you.

Lack of support and cheating

Hey guys, I have a dilemma. My boyfriend and I been together for 7 years. I voiced to him how I’d like to get married multiple times before having a baby and it just didn’t happen that way. After giving birth about a month ago I just been feeling like i should have a ring on my finger by now. The least you could have done was make me your fiancé even if it’s not the perfect ring. You could get me something better later, at least I know Im your future wife. But anyways, 2 nights ago his phone dinged at 4 am last night and it just had me suspicious but thought nothing of it. Then that morning I went on his phone to specifically get my babies one month photos and I saw a photo of him shirtless. I know damn well he ain’t send that to me so I ended up looking through his phone. Now he sent this to his “coworker” and I seen a couple more messages from others. I addressed it and he played victim as if it’s not a big deal. So I was like ok bet, now he thinks everything is ok but it’s not. Now I’ve been also feeling a lack of support when it come to our baby girl as well. Do you think I should pack my stuff up and the baby to leave to go to my mom for 2 weeks without him knowing and not answer his calls? Because he thinks everything is cool when I’ve been feeling hurt and not supported.

AI Flyers

Maybe it's just me but I'm so sick of seeing the ai flyers for text groups 😭 just pop on canva and make one yourself it's really not too hard they have templates and everything I don't understand the ai obsession

New Jersey?

Hi everyone! 😊

We moved to New Jersey about a month ago, and I’m hoping to meet some lovely moms and make new friends for both me and my 6 year old daughter.

Would love to connect with moms who are interested in playdates, park visits, weekend outings, or just hanging out together. It would be great for the kids to make new friends while we get to know each other too! ❤️

Sahm

So my babies now 6 months old, I love my partner to bits but I’m starting to feel so stuck and trapped, I went self employed about a year before having our first baby leaving me with nothing really job wise now, I was only cleaning and not making much money at all, at the moment I’m at home with the baby and my partner says I can just carry this on whenever I ask about what we’re going to do about me going back to work and childcare / says it’s up to me but then asks me about starting a career ? I’m so confused by this - also he’s so good to me and does work really hard and long hours (sometimes weekends) his job is stressful and I try to make everything as easy as I can at home, i do all the housework / cooking cleaning/ make his lunches / cut the grass, / shopping /look after baby and we have chickens, ducks 3 dogs and horses so also try to keep up with all of this too. It’s hard. My boy has recently been poorly and not been sleeping through the night so I’m up trying to not let him wake my partner - if I ask him to change any nappies or have baby or help clear up (not often I ask) all I get is ‘I’ve been at work to pay for you’ I feel so distant from him and it’s like talking to a wall if I try to talk about it. I’m also pick up a few shifts cleaning and have to take baby with me which is HELL just to try to earn a bit for myself. I feel stuck and helpless and SO lonely - he’s always on his phone when he’s home or we have his friend around constantly. Am I being sensitive ? I can’t do anything as I have the baby and literally no money or job or childcare 🤣 I love being a mum and I want more kids I feel like if I say I’m struggling it’s a reason to not have any more in the future but I’m not struggling with my baby just a little bit of help without feeling like I’m ungrateful for everything he does - he is so good to us and I know that
Am I being awful?
Is our relationship fizzling out ?
I always wanted to always be fine on my own financially etc and I never wanted to be in this position and he knows that. Now that I am - because I trust him i feel so stuck

Any neurodivergents in Ohio looking to become friends 🫶

Hey I'm in Northeast Ohio. Definitely willing to connect and hang out!

Lost…

I feel abit lost atm, I’m 35 weeks pregnant tomorrow with my first but it’s the 4th for the dad. This was completely unplanned and when I told him he said co parenting but that would be it which surprised me as he had already said he didn’t want any more kids.

We were never in a relationship so this isn’t the most ideal situation but I’ve been doing my best to keep positive knowing soon I’m going to have my own little baby in my arms which I thought would never happen. Conversation hasn’t been the best even from the beginning but over the past month I heard nothing from him and he told me it was because he had no phone, I’ve spoken to him abit lately but today I was told that he’s been sleeping with someone and I’m trying my hardest not to let it bother me as we aren’t and never were a couple. Part of me feels soo stupid and let down but then I have to remind myself we were never together….. I don’t know how to deal with this

Need some advice 😩

I need some advice , my baby dad is threating to get legal involved as he wants rights as the father. Baby is not born yet not until march. I have a 2 year old son (not he’s) and have had full custody of him since he was born. i have said i don’t want my the unborn dad on birth certificate or the baby to have he’s last name due to wanting both kids to have mine (we are not married) . The stuff he’s saying it’s like it’s he’s way or no way told me i can’t breastfeed and wants to take the baby for 2 hours every weekend when he’s born i said no not until he’s 4/5 months and not on boob. He’s a ex alcoholic and pretty sure he still drinks and suffers bad with bpd and ADHD i just feel like im in a loop what i do. Do i block him on everything and just see if he takes me to court or try and be civil which dont work because he plays the victim

Looking for my bestfriends

Let’s meet up and let’s hang out and get to know each other better?

Mommy friends

Hey 👋🏾 I'm 34yrs young, looking to find mommy friends on this new journey as a first time mom. My son is 3 months old

Cheating, help I feel like I’m drowning

We had the most wonderful relationship he was my best friend we communicate so well he was my heart and home you could never have told me this would be the way my life was gonna turn. He made me feel adored and gave me everything I needed and wanted. We were the couple goals to all our friend. I truly believed our love was like no other. We bused to joke about cheating and make up fake scenarios to laugh at.

I stopped working when I was 3 months pregnant and was living in his family home while we were waiting for our apartment to be ready. We got married on the 12th April 2025 after being together 3 1/2 years on the 12th April 2026 he sent a girl money for the morning after pill. ( she sent me the screenshot)

I was 8 months pregnant when she ‘came to me as a woman’ my entire world stopped.
He started cheating in January. They worked together. To my knowledge it happened twice. The second time is when she apparently got bitter because he ‘didn’t want to continue’ which made her feel unwanted idk… all I I could think at the time is I could have made a choice. She knew about me, he knew, people at his work knew. I left the house straight away for about two weeks but moved back as I couldn’t be away from everything I needed especially being so pregnant. It’s torture needing the person who caused you the heart ache. I’ve never in my life cried so much or felt such depths of pain. He destroyed my reality completely.

He’s very remorseful and i do believe he regrets it but too little too late. He’s one of those ‘ who don’t listen must feel’ type of people. He tries daily to make things okay I just can’t get with the programme. I was such a lover girl but now can barely even look at him for too long. The only thing I can see is them two together. I already know ultimately I have to put an end to it I just don’t know why I can’t do it yet. Our baby is nearly 3 months old I’m sure I’ll be able to cope on my own and co- parent. I’m just so scared.

He didn’t think of me, he’s proven he didn’t love me the way he said, he ruined my safety my security he made sooooo many choices he could have stopped in order to cheat. I will never feel safe again. I’d rather eat a Jean jacket than trust a man again. I would do anything for a little memory loss.