I feel so sad. //31 weeks pregnant twins
Lately I been not in a great headspace and been crying a lot almost like grieving over the fact that I do not have any of my so called friends messaging me since being pregnant or making an effort to come over to hang out. It would mainly be me offering to meet up in town or a small hang out area but ..The plan never goes through but since then I realised not a single so called "friends" have even bothered to check up on me or ask how the pregnancy is going as time has gotten closer and the third trimester being really difficult right now..
For example, around the end of September, I knew one of my mates were going to be out of England for a month, and I wanted to see them before they left. They never told me when other than the beginning of October, so I tried to see if they wanted to meet up, but they kept avoiding the suggestion, and I thought that was weird. Then I didn't hear from them after thar until I found out they been out of England and didn't even bother to tell me....To top it off was active all that entire month on social amd I tried messaging but dead silence for an entire month. But as soon as they sneaked back to England and still no messages. The only thing I got from them was a stupid reel, no message... I felt so deflated at this point and realised I don't think I can be friends with them knowing I have been friends with them for 4 years and had a good friendship..It was like I couldn't recognise who I was messaging or hanging out with...So I have spent couple weeks just meltdown after meltdown about it realising I have no friends who care...
My other mate isn't any better ether she hadn't messaged me once. Who knew about the pregnancy and no messages off of her. She posted that she is having a Halloween night with her mate, and I haven't heard from her since she messaged in early September and saying she was pregnant then messaged shortly after that said she muscarried unfortunately but i tried to keep in touch worrying about how she was coping but leading up to that she didn't message or respond to my previous messages.
So I'm just so embarrassed and upset about the realisation that I'm alone, no friends, no work mates messaging me since I have been on maternity leave, and I just feel so disconnected as a 25 year old I should have some women friends about at least but no..The only person that is helping ne get through it is my partner and his mum and his dad side of the family.
Does anyone relate..
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I think this happens to a lot of people! All my old friends never checked in or ignored my messages.
Just wait until the little ones are here you will make mum friends ❤️ they are a different type of friend! Xx
In the same lovely and I’m struggling with friends so I’m here lovely xxxxx
I second Kealy's message! I lost so many people but gained so many more
So I'll be cut throat with you on this one! just because people don't check up on you ... it does not mean that they do not care. You can either choose to communicate how you feel in a calm way because you value your friendships or you can find new friends who will be supportive of your journey and will check on you the way you want. When I got my 2 under 2s I felt alienated because i was the only person in my friendship group to have kids however those are just thoughts, they are not my reality. You may think they don't care about you but they might actually care. Unless someone tells you directly that THEY DO NOT WANT ANYTHING TO DO WITH YOU ... just assume the best. It's the least you can do in your circumstance. Regardless, you are worthy of meaningful relationships and if communicating how you feel doesn't get you anywhere then it's the perfect time to make new friends. this is one of those rock bottom moments for many mums so you should have people in your corner.
34 here and never really made any women friends unfortunately! But this app is helping that! I have met a lovely lady who has a lovely little girl right across the road from me ☺️ We get on well and we both hope our little ones will become friends and grow up together ❤️ So definitely try your best finding some local friends to make through here, it can totally be worth it x
Hey sorry i have no input for you but im a fellow twin mum with two 14 month old boys - do you know what your having xx
Do you have any other support? I had similar feelings early on. (20 weeks atm) and luckily was referred to perinatal care and transferred to the ruby team so I see a midwife about my mental health as well and can reach out when feeling low. It can be so isolating especially without other friends going through the same so I’m right there with you! Not sure where your based but I’d be happy to chat! 🫶🏾
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I feel so sad. //31 weeks pregnant twins
Lately I been not in a great headspace and been crying a lot almost like grieving over the fact that I do not have any of my so called friends messaging me since being pregnant or making an effort to come over to hang out. It would mainly be me offering to meet up in town or a small hang out area but ..The plan never goes through but since then I realised not a single so called "friends" have even bothered to check up on me or ask how the pregnancy is going as time has gotten closer and the third trimester being really difficult right now..
For example, around the end of September, I knew one of my mates were going to be out of England for a month, and I wanted to see them before they left. They never told me when other than the beginning of October, so I tried to see if they wanted to meet up, but they kept avoiding the suggestion, and I thought that was weird. Then I didn't hear from them after thar until I found out they been out of England and didn't even bother to tell me....To top it off was active all that entire month on social amd I tried messaging but dead silence for an entire month. But as soon as they sneaked back to England and still no messages. The only thing I got from them was a stupid reel, no message... I felt so deflated at this point and realised I don't think I can be friends with them knowing I have been friends with them for 4 years and had a good friendship..It was like I couldn't recognise who I was messaging or hanging out with...So I have spent couple weeks just meltdown after meltdown about it realising I have no friends who care...
My other mate isn't any better ether she hadn't messaged me once. Who knew about the pregnancy and no messages off of her. She posted that she is having a Halloween night with her mate, and I haven't heard from her since she messaged in early September and saying she was pregnant then messaged shortly after that said she muscarried unfortunately but i tried to keep in touch worrying about how she was coping but leading up to that she didn't message or respond to my previous messages.
So I'm just so embarrassed and upset about the realisation that I'm alone, no friends, no work mates messaging me since I have been on maternity leave, and I just feel so disconnected as a 25 year old I should have some women friends about at least but no..The only person that is helping ne get through it is my partner and his mum and his dad side of the family.
Does anyone relate..
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I want to leave my husband
My baby is 11 months old and since he was born I resent my husband and just don’t love him.
I want to leave but financially that would be stupid as he earns a lot of money and I wouldn’t have anything to my name.
I don’t see our relationship getting better he never helps out because he’s always working but I don’t think that’s fair on me.
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baby daddy relationship rant lol
He was recently offered a job at a strip club though and I can’t lie I’m way too insecure to continue any sort of romantic relationship with him because of that.
We separated 5 months ago (mutually) and have been recently having lots of sex and still going on dates as of almost 3 months ago. Our daughter is 10 months and we’ve gotten comfortable with the idea of us working out as a family again.
It just sucks though bc this company he was working for got a new contract for a buy out and he’s going to be let go. He had 4-5 weeks to prepare himself to get into another position at work but instead he decided to wait until the last minute and unfortunately now there’s no availability left.
Two days ago he got an offer for a different job & texted me asking me what I thought about him working as a bouncer and indoor security at a strip club for minimum wage + tips and it made me SICKK. Nothing wrong with strippers or clubs tbh, but the idea of the loml working with mostly naked women makes me want to throw the fuck up!
Turns out it’s a very private and exclusive club with only 1-2 clients per night who spent upwards of 5-10k per night which only makes me think this is a pay for sex kinda place. Not even just a regular club.
He asked me what I thought. I was honest about it making me sick but I did try to not come off as too jealous or insecure and said how the money would be the same at a restaurant (if he wanted minimum wage + tips so bad, be a server hello?!)
His response was he doesn’t think he fits the aesthetic of a server rn. I didn’t have anything else to say to him after he tried convincing me it’s a great and perfect idea. And honestly, if he wants to do it, I am absolutely not one to stop him. I’m not his wife. But I don’t know if I can pursue a relationship anymore & try to grow from what we have to something beautiful and solid. I just can’t.
He asked me if I’d hate him if he did it and I said I don’t know.
Because I don’t! I don’t want him working at some sex club going from $40 an hour to $16.90 but he’s actually treating it like his only option. Am I throwing away a family over something stupid? Should I just get over it? 💔
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Searching for some friends 💕
Long distance or close by don’t matter to me 😊 would love someone to talk to that doesn’t end after a day! lol we can talk about anything. I’m an open book. I don’t judge, I love being there for people. I’m the type that you can always vent too💕I have snap ☺️let’s be besties??
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Any mommies here like to be on the phone or text throughout the day
I am looking for more mommies in any area who don't mind texting or being otp. I am currently located in Indiana but don't mind long distance. Im open to do a group chat as well if that works better.
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Mom friends in near Lancaster PA!
Hoping to find one of those Mom friends that would like to talk to you each day during the workday just to make them better and faster. And then even on to have little friends for our son who's just 2 1/2.
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