baby daddy relationship rant lol
He was recently offered a job at a strip club though and I can’t lie I’m way too insecure to continue any sort of romantic relationship with him because of that.
We separated 5 months ago (mutually) and have been recently having lots of sex and still going on dates as of almost 3 months ago. Our daughter is 10 months and we’ve gotten comfortable with the idea of us working out as a family again.
It just sucks though bc this company he was working for got a new contract for a buy out and he’s going to be let go. He had 4-5 weeks to prepare himself to get into another position at work but instead he decided to wait until the last minute and unfortunately now there’s no availability left.
Two days ago he got an offer for a different job & texted me asking me what I thought about him working as a bouncer and indoor security at a strip club for minimum wage + tips and it made me SICKK. Nothing wrong with strippers or clubs tbh, but the idea of the loml working with mostly naked women makes me want to throw the fuck up!
Turns out it’s a very private and exclusive club with only 1-2 clients per night who spent upwards of 5-10k per night which only makes me think this is a pay for sex kinda place. Not even just a regular club.
He asked me what I thought. I was honest about it making me sick but I did try to not come off as too jealous or insecure and said how the money would be the same at a restaurant (if he wanted minimum wage + tips so bad, be a server hello?!)
His response was he doesn’t think he fits the aesthetic of a server rn. I didn’t have anything else to say to him after he tried convincing me it’s a great and perfect idea. And honestly, if he wants to do it, I am absolutely not one to stop him. I’m not his wife. But I don’t know if I can pursue a relationship anymore & try to grow from what we have to something beautiful and solid. I just can’t.
He asked me if I’d hate him if he did it and I said I don’t know.
Because I don’t! I don’t want him working at some sex club going from $40 an hour to $16.90 but he’s actually treating it like his only option. Am I throwing away a family over something stupid? Should I just get over it? 💔
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I get the whole idea of him working around half naked women would make you insecure, because tbh I think it would me.
However, what have you got to lose by him taking the job & trying to continue the relationship you’ve built? If he loves you, his morals won’t change even if he’s around these women. Give it a go, you never know it may just work out for you. X
It’s not only about how you feel too I would tell him to be careful that world is dangerous. He can drugged assaulted many more
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baby daddy relationship rant lol
He was recently offered a job at a strip club though and I can’t lie I’m way too insecure to continue any sort of romantic relationship with him because of that.
We separated 5 months ago (mutually) and have been recently having lots of sex and still going on dates as of almost 3 months ago. Our daughter is 10 months and we’ve gotten comfortable with the idea of us working out as a family again.
It just sucks though bc this company he was working for got a new contract for a buy out and he’s going to be let go. He had 4-5 weeks to prepare himself to get into another position at work but instead he decided to wait until the last minute and unfortunately now there’s no availability left.
Two days ago he got an offer for a different job & texted me asking me what I thought about him working as a bouncer and indoor security at a strip club for minimum wage + tips and it made me SICKK. Nothing wrong with strippers or clubs tbh, but the idea of the loml working with mostly naked women makes me want to throw the fuck up!
Turns out it’s a very private and exclusive club with only 1-2 clients per night who spent upwards of 5-10k per night which only makes me think this is a pay for sex kinda place. Not even just a regular club.
He asked me what I thought. I was honest about it making me sick but I did try to not come off as too jealous or insecure and said how the money would be the same at a restaurant (if he wanted minimum wage + tips so bad, be a server hello?!)
His response was he doesn’t think he fits the aesthetic of a server rn. I didn’t have anything else to say to him after he tried convincing me it’s a great and perfect idea. And honestly, if he wants to do it, I am absolutely not one to stop him. I’m not his wife. But I don’t know if I can pursue a relationship anymore & try to grow from what we have to something beautiful and solid. I just can’t.
He asked me if I’d hate him if he did it and I said I don’t know.
Because I don’t! I don’t want him working at some sex club going from $40 an hour to $16.90 but he’s actually treating it like his only option. Am I throwing away a family over something stupid? Should I just get over it? 💔
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