Cheating, help I feel like I’m drowning
We had the most wonderful relationship he was my best friend we communicate so well he was my heart and home you could never have told me this would be the way my life was gonna turn. He made me feel adored and gave me everything I needed and wanted. We were the couple goals to all our friend. I truly believed our love was like no other. We bused to joke about cheating and make up fake scenarios to laugh at.
I stopped working when I was 3 months pregnant and was living in his family home while we were waiting for our apartment to be ready. We got married on the 12th April 2025 after being together 3 1/2 years on the 12th April 2026 he sent a girl money for the morning after pill. ( she sent me the screenshot)
I was 8 months pregnant when she ‘came to me as a woman’ my entire world stopped.
He started cheating in January. They worked together. To my knowledge it happened twice. The second time is when she apparently got bitter because he ‘didn’t want to continue’ which made her feel unwanted idk… all I I could think at the time is I could have made a choice. She knew about me, he knew, people at his work knew. I left the house straight away for about two weeks but moved back as I couldn’t be away from everything I needed especially being so pregnant. It’s torture needing the person who caused you the heart ache. I’ve never in my life cried so much or felt such depths of pain. He destroyed my reality completely.
He’s very remorseful and i do believe he regrets it but too little too late. He’s one of those ‘ who don’t listen must feel’ type of people. He tries daily to make things okay I just can’t get with the programme. I was such a lover girl but now can barely even look at him for too long. The only thing I can see is them two together. I already know ultimately I have to put an end to it I just don’t know why I can’t do it yet. Our baby is nearly 3 months old I’m sure I’ll be able to cope on my own and co- parent. I’m just so scared.
He didn’t think of me, he’s proven he didn’t love me the way he said, he ruined my safety my security he made sooooo many choices he could have stopped in order to cheat. I will never feel safe again. I’d rather eat a Jean jacket than trust a man again. I would do anything for a little memory loss.
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Cheat back and then leave with your baby. Man is man. They are THAT way.
Hey, Mama, I feel like I just read about what could have happened to me if I would have had a child in my last relationship. Everything was identical so let me tell you what I learned about my ex. Habitual cheaters develop habits in new relationships that often involve period of loyalty while you are in a prime love status. This is often enough to sweep you off your feet and lure you in. Listen to me carefully sweety 🗣️ It is NEVER the real them. The rapid change will make you think you did something, you said something but for them their loyalty period has just run out. They will grow distant, lie about not cheating while still cheating, lie about changing with no intention of acting on it and you have to make the best decision for you. Counseling while having a newborn is highly suggested to keep you ahead of any postpartum curves. Focusing on your happiness, your safety and your wellbeing is best. Never ignore your intuitions they will lead you right.
I'm beginning to absolutely hate men- I'm so sorry to hear this and I can't imagine what it's like to be pregnant and have to co-parent in your most vulnerable state with a newborn :(
My ex didn't cheat but just decided one day to tell me he didn't want me anymore and moved out leaving me to pick up the pieces financially and emotionally with 2 children
They're actually horrible- you think you have something wonderful one min and then nothing the next
This happened to me babe so Ik where you coming from completely it’s a whole mind fuck your Brain literally becomes rewired if you ever want to talk message me privately xx
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I am so sorry!! The fact that he did it more than once is a definite nail in the coffin. To be or feel happy you will need to leave with your sweet little baby. The sooner the better. You'll be able to trust a man again. Maybe not today, maybe not in a year, but you will once you find the right guy! Not all men are cheaters and liars. No need to stoop to his level. Ive had my fair share of P.O.S men trust me. It's not men, its people in general. But you will be happy again especially once your on your own feet and can focus on you and your little one! You can have a healthy co parenting relationship with him but leave it at that! He deserves absolutely no power over your well being and happiness! My love and prayers! 🙏 ❤️
GIRL GET YA LICK BACK!! AND THEN LEAVE
You can do it on your own and co parent sometimes the damage is done I wouldn’t forgive it babe I couldn’t I understand he regrets it but he still did it more the once aswell!! You are strong you can do this!!! I promise
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Cheating, help I feel like I’m drowning
We had the most wonderful relationship he was my best friend we communicate so well he was my heart and home you could never have told me this would be the way my life was gonna turn. He made me feel adored and gave me everything I needed and wanted. We were the couple goals to all our friend. I truly believed our love was like no other. We bused to joke about cheating and make up fake scenarios to laugh at.
I stopped working when I was 3 months pregnant and was living in his family home while we were waiting for our apartment to be ready. We got married on the 12th April 2025 after being together 3 1/2 years on the 12th April 2026 he sent a girl money for the morning after pill. ( she sent me the screenshot)
I was 8 months pregnant when she ‘came to me as a woman’ my entire world stopped.
He started cheating in January. They worked together. To my knowledge it happened twice. The second time is when she apparently got bitter because he ‘didn’t want to continue’ which made her feel unwanted idk… all I I could think at the time is I could have made a choice. She knew about me, he knew, people at his work knew. I left the house straight away for about two weeks but moved back as I couldn’t be away from everything I needed especially being so pregnant. It’s torture needing the person who caused you the heart ache. I’ve never in my life cried so much or felt such depths of pain. He destroyed my reality completely.
He’s very remorseful and i do believe he regrets it but too little too late. He’s one of those ‘ who don’t listen must feel’ type of people. He tries daily to make things okay I just can’t get with the programme. I was such a lover girl but now can barely even look at him for too long. The only thing I can see is them two together. I already know ultimately I have to put an end to it I just don’t know why I can’t do it yet. Our baby is nearly 3 months old I’m sure I’ll be able to cope on my own and co- parent. I’m just so scared.
He didn’t think of me, he’s proven he didn’t love me the way he said, he ruined my safety my security he made sooooo many choices he could have stopped in order to cheat. I will never feel safe again. I’d rather eat a Jean jacket than trust a man again. I would do anything for a little memory loss.
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Hey 👋🏾 I'm 34yrs young, looking to find mommy friends on this new journey as a first time mom. My son is 3 months old
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Im 35 and looking for a friend that loves to laugh! Enjoys fantasy...lol I have two children, a 10 year old and a 13 year old. Definitely a new phase of motherhood and I would love to find someone going or is in that phase too or not...lol Im new to this place and trying to figure it out 😅
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Financial Help/Statutory Paternity Pay Rejected
Has anyone else been in this situation with Statutory Paternity Pay (SPP)?
I’m hoping someone might have some advice or have experienced something similar, because we’re honestly at a bit of a loss about what to do next. ☹️
My partner and I are expecting our first baby in January. We’ve been told this week that his application for Statutory Paternity Pay (SPP) has been rejected because he notified his employer of his intention to take paternity leave slightly later than the required deadline.
This is all incredibly new to us as first-time parents. Sadly, we were completely unaware of this deadline. Had we known about it, he would have made sure to apply in good time.
There were also personal circumstances surrounding why we waited to notify his employer, including a high-risk pregnancy and wanting to wait until we felt more reassured before sharing our news. This wasn’t a decision we’d taken lightly.
We’ve appealed the decision twice now, explained our circumstances and asked for some consideration, but the employer has confirmed that their decision remains unchanged.
He has been granted the leave but not the pay. He would have to take unpaid leave or use his accrued holiday allowance. Unfortunately, we cannot afford for him to take unpaid leave, and he will not have accrued enough holiday by January.
What makes things particularly frustrating is that one of his colleagues in the exact same situation as us was granted SPP despite notifying late. We’re struggling to understand why our circumstances haven’t been considered in the same way, especially as no explanation has been provided.
- Has anyone successfully challenged an employer’s refusal of SPP due to late notification?
- Is there any way to appeal further or have the decision independently reviewed?
- Can paternity pay be claimed through the Jobcentre or DWP instead?
- Are there any other benefits, grants or financial support available to help cover the loss of income during paternity leave?
We’re not looking to take advantage of anything. We just want my partner to be able to spend those first precious days with his newborn son without us having to worry quite so much about the financial impact.
Any advice or personal experiences would be massively appreciated. ❤️
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After 4 years of being a SAHM and maybe a handful of times (1hr or less each time) of having time to myself, im looking to prioritize time for myself because Im feeling the negative effects and just want to be a happier mom. I only leave the house once a week to go grocery shopping with my husband and kids which is also quite overwhelming.
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