Lost…
I feel abit lost atm, I’m 35 weeks pregnant tomorrow with my first but it’s the 4th for the dad. This was completely unplanned and when I told him he said co parenting but that would be it which surprised me as he had already said he didn’t want any more kids.
We were never in a relationship so this isn’t the most ideal situation but I’ve been doing my best to keep positive knowing soon I’m going to have my own little baby in my arms which I thought would never happen. Conversation hasn’t been the best even from the beginning but over the past month I heard nothing from him and he told me it was because he had no phone, I’ve spoken to him abit lately but today I was told that he’s been sleeping with someone and I’m trying my hardest not to let it bother me as we aren’t and never were a couple. Part of me feels soo stupid and let down but then I have to remind myself we were never together….. I don’t know how to deal with this
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We’re here for you. Put him on child support. Or maybe make him a single dad for real. Live your life, love what you created, don’t do it again. Be brave and strong. You’re going to want to hold and love on that baby but girl, being stuck on a Mary-go-round eventually gets you sick and whiplash.
He sounds like a guy you and baby will be better off without… but definitely get him for child support!
Do you have family/friends that can help you with baby? It’s going to be a lot of work but you will be sooooo happy holding your little one 🫶🏼 holding those little hands will give you so much strength to take action and be better 💪🏼
Like Nayomi said we’re here for you! PM me if you need to chat or want to gush about your baby!
You’re better off without him. Just focus on you and your little precious baby. I also got pregnant from a man that I was not in a relationship with and he is not involved. It has been very challenging but so amazing and rewarding being a mother even if he’s not around. Get yourself involved in a community like your local church or moms group that can help support you when your baby comes. I got a doula to help me with my delivery because I was doing it alone and that really helped me a lot. I really believe the right person will come into my life at the right time that will love me and my son fully and until then I’m just going to try to enjoy the moments we have together and remember not to settle for some whack ass dude just because I’m lonely. You got this girl! You can message me any time if you need to vent!
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I feel abit lost atm, I’m 35 weeks pregnant tomorrow with my first but it’s the 4th for the dad. This was completely unplanned and when I told him he said co parenting but that would be it which surprised me as he had already said he didn’t want any more kids.
We were never in a relationship so this isn’t the most ideal situation but I’ve been doing my best to keep positive knowing soon I’m going to have my own little baby in my arms which I thought would never happen. Conversation hasn’t been the best even from the beginning but over the past month I heard nothing from him and he told me it was because he had no phone, I’ve spoken to him abit lately but today I was told that he’s been sleeping with someone and I’m trying my hardest not to let it bother me as we aren’t and never were a couple. Part of me feels soo stupid and let down but then I have to remind myself we were never together….. I don’t know how to deal with this
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