4 Month Sleep Regression - AM I DOING IT WRONG?! 🥺

I have no advice to give you as I am on the same boat. My LG is EBF and she is on the boob constantly. She was able to sleep before and self sooth herself but after she turned 4 m everything is forgotten

I sympathise so much with you, it’s hard isn’t it 😩 I think what makes it slightly easier is we know it’s normal for them to go through it! But you read stuff online and it completely throws you and gets you questioning everything you’ve done 🤣

Girl I feel your pain. Our little fellow was sleeping stretches of 7 or 8 hours until he hit 4 months. It was such a rude shock 😅 He’d maybe sleep for a few hours then start waking every hour or two (or sometimes 45mins 🤪) after 2am. I tried my best to settle him when he was still in his bassinet with the least amount of “intervention” as possible, with pats usually and resisted getting him up to feed unless he was really worked up. He started sucking his thumb and that seems to have helped him a little bit. I hesitate to even say it in case I jinx us but after about 4 weeks he has started sleeping in longer stretches again. For now anyway 😅

Oh ignore that advice, it's absolute crap. Nursing them back to sleep is the quickest and easiest way for both of you, it's your best shot at getting the most sleep. Regressions pass, they're bloody hard when you're in them, but sleep with small kiddos is a rollercoaster, it goes up and down. You absolutely are not doing anything wrong at all.

Also I apologise because I know 'its normal' is not even slightly helpful when you're in the midst of it and are completely and utterly exhausted 💕 if you want some great resources for biologically normal infant sleep but with some great tips about how to survive them, heysleepybaby and Lyndsey Hookway on Instagram are both legends. Good luck 💕

Sarah, I’m so glad it’s relatable in a way which sounds awful but you can feel so alone in it can’t you 😩🤣 omg such a shock, Lily was the same sleeping through, I thought I’d given birth to an angel and then bam 😂 I will definitely give those tactics a try, thank you so much 🥹 That’s really reassuring to know and I’m so glad to hear you are getting more sleep, I’ll keep everything crossed it stays that way for you🥰 Eve, thank you for being so reassuring! 🥹 That’s why I result to feeding so it’s quick but then it made me feel like I was being a lazy/bad parent creating these habits 🫠 no no I didn’t take it that way at all haha! While it’s hard to hear it’s normal, it also actually helps ALOT!! I will take a look at those, thank you so much again🥹🥰

It’s hell you need to put her down at liek 6

Not wrong at all! Totally in same boat over here. Lots of love. We can do this xx

Hey 😊 my baby was a nightmare with sleep until about 6 months. During a his 4 month regression he was up every 20 minutes at times. I fed him most times to get him back to sleep - it wasn’t always even a feed, just him suckling for comfort. I always picked him up - still do. He’s now 17 months, has been sleeping through since 13 months. Just letting you know because I didn’t follow what was ‘right’. I just did what my instincts told me was best and it turned out fine in the end (even if I had people telling me I was doing it all wrong).

Sarah I’m so sorry if you peeped my comment! I deleted it!! Lol I posted my own post about sleep issues I got confused I hate this app

This is the real sleep regression which exists as sleep has been cycle-based now. Waking in every 45 to 60 minutes is gonna be very normal if the baby doesn't know how to connect their sleep cycles. She is gonna wake up more frequently to ask for comfort and the same routine back to whatever she used during bedtime. Try putting her down drowsy or awake now and gently settle her when she is into the crib with some patting and rubbing. Check the Kiddo Sleep Factor page on Insta. You may find it helpful and ask for help if needed. It can be better with responsive and attachment-based techniques.

My boy recently went from sleeping 10.5 hours for 3 weeks straight to waking every 10-20 mins I’ve been having to feed him back to sleep every 2-3 hours like a damn newborn again

Regressions do pass. It lasted 8/9 weeks for us but suddenly ended and reverted back to 'normal'. I did work on her being put down awake at bed. I.e I would feed and put her straight down awake, she took to this well and it seemed to help xx

I know this was a little while ago but I think I’m about to get into the 4 month regression and I EBF and have always fed to sleep and then she’s upright for 30 mins…any tips on what to do? 😳🤣🙏

@Sarah Hey Sarah 😌 I’ve come back to my own post as I’m now going through the 9 month sleep regression and needed to see what everyone said haha 🫣 I’m sorry I’ve only just seen this!! My advice would be to stick to exactly that, as it was the only way I got some sleep! The keeping them upright after works a treat for wind etc too otherwise I found she woke up every 20mins needed a burp 🥺 now my little girl is older though I can feed her, keep her upright for 5 mins and she will go down happily. While I don’t have much more advice other than what these lovely people wrote, do know it does get better and you do sleep again 🥹 (until the next one, when it feels like the end of the world again🤣) While the sleepless nights through it are hard, it’s always so exciting see the new skills they’ve learnt, or the new little teeth that have come through and their little personalities develop… making it that little bit worth while 🤍

@Nicole it definitely got better!🥹 just stick to a routine as best as possible and just do what works for you and your little one!! Whether that’s feed them to sleep, safely co-sleep, do what you need to do to get a little sleep yourself. No one knows them better than you 🥰 My support bubble isn’t the biggest/or most available but when I was really struggling I asked my sister to come and watch my little girl while I had a couple hours of catch up sleep in the day… it helped me through the tough nights! You’ve got this ❤️

@Sophie yes it got better! She now sleeps from about 8:30/9 until 4 and then till 7 so enjoying it until the next regression! I am keeping her upright for about 20mins now which is working well and her wind and reflux has got a lot better thankfully. It’s always just so hard to see through when you’re in the thick of it

@Sarah oh amazing! That sounds stunning, I’m so glad you are getting some decent sleep ☺️ It’s a lifesaver, I learnt about keeping them upright from an Instagram post, before that I could not figure out why she would wake up so quickly after being put down haha😂 It absolutely is… you think you’d know for the next regression too but I was crying for what felt like hours last night 😵‍💫 every half an hour she was waking up! 🥹

@Sophie Oh my goodness i will gear myself up for that one then 😳 Did you move yours to their own room at all?