Pregnant after miscarriage

I miscarried back in December at 8 weeks. I’m now pregnant again and have made it to 13 weeks 🤍 but I continue to have SO much anxiety worrying if baby is okay between visits. I drive myself nuts. Anyone have any tips to help with being so anxious about all the possibilities? I try so hard to live day by day and I know I have so much to be grateful for.

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So, I recently had a mmc at 9w2d on feb 8th, it was my first pregnancy in 10 years. That being said, 4 weeks before I got pregnant with my son (he's 10 now), I had a mc. I got pregnant immediately after, had a healthy pregnancy, healthy baby, everything. I hope this helps! I was also told 10 months before I got pregnant with him that id never have kids, ever. If there's anything you enjoy doing like Journaling, drawing, coloring, watching movies, taking walks, whatever it may be, try doing those things when your anxiety is up high. And remember with each passing day, week, etc. the chances and %'s of MC go down significantly! Congratulations on your sweet 🌈 👶🏻 🥰

P.s. your story gives me hope from this last mmc I had 🩷🩵 I just wanted to tell you that.

could I please ask, was it a month after you stopped bleeding and was natural or a procedure? Sorry for the questions. I had a missed miscarriage, had a strong heartbeat at 8 weeks but yesterday at 12 week scan they said it stopped growing at 8 weeks and today I’ve started naturally miscarrying. They said it could take 2-3 weeks of bleeding so wondered when to start trying after that? Is sex more painful after a miscarriage? Sorry for all the sensitive questions. Trying to focus on moving forward.

@Jennie So, I went to a regular checkup at 8w2d (feb 2nd) and Dr got concerned because we could only see the heartbeat but not hear it so he sent me for hcg bloodwork 48hrs apart & another ultrasound. I did my ultrasound feb 6th. The next morning I wiped & saw spot of blood, went to ER. While waiting I was able to pull up my ultrasound results & it showed that my gestational sac had become abnormal & deformable in shape & fetal pole present with no cardiac activity. I think the night of my appt the 2nd is when baby's heartbeat stopped because I got EXTREMELY nauseous & projectile vomited which I hadn't done my whole pregnancy. I seen my Dr the day I spotted (feb 7th) & he prescribed cytotec cus my body wasn't doing it naturally. I didn't pick it up until the next morning. I showered & when I got out I began to bleed (within minutes of taking the meds), after baby came out I started hemorrhaging & had to be admitted to ER cus of so much blood loss. They gave me more cytotec & then oxytocin. I bled for just

My friend is 15 weeks having miscarried at 7 weeks end of November so very similar to you Shelby. She is just trying to take it day by day but I know the risk gets a lot lower after 13 weeks and I’ve read that it’s less likely to miscarry after you’ve already had a miscarriage. Something I’m really hoping I do get pregnant again.

over 2 weeks. After placenta came out it stopped and I only spotted for like 2 days. I started taking Regulate that I ordered on Amazon cus my cycles are always irregular and it's helped me a lot with keeping my cycle regular, especially since the mmc. So, we had sex for the first time the 28th of Feb and it didn't hurt & i didnt bleed or anything, we were both very nervous of that. You can track your hcg with pregnancy tests, whenever the hcg isn't detectable in urine or blood you should be good to start TTC again. I'm soo sorry you're going through this. And don't be sorry, they are all relevant questions. I had them, too. I started tracking my ovulation with tests. I hyperovulated last month but it's said you can do that after mc. LH tests will pick up hcg, too so if you're preg test is still positive, chances are you're going to get a positive ovulation test. If you ever have anymore questions or just need to talk please msg me. I'm here anytime, always. And again, my heart goes out to you 🤍

Also, my first period came exactly 4w3d after my first day of bleeding from mmc. It was 4 days which was my norm before but I normally start heavy them it goes lighter, with my 1st period post mmc it was light the first day, heavy the next 2 days (not irregularly heavy though, just normal heavy) and then just regular the last day. I hope all of this helps even just a little bit. I Google so much during and after the mmc happened before joining these groups.

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Second early reasurrance scan.

I have had 3 chemical pregnancies and a missed miscarriage ( blighted ovum ) before this. I had a first reasurance scan 2 weeks ago when i would have been around 7 weeks + 1, the scan went well, heart beat seen etc but it was so small they dated me at 6 weeks rather than 7. So i had a second yesterday, for a clearer image and to see the progression and was dated back at 9 weeks + 2, heartbeat seen, baby growing big and strong they said. They were really happy with it. It gave me so much reassurance seeing both scans and does put my mind more at ease, how is everyone else doing around now? :) the symptoms are fun fun fun haha.

Gender scan

What’s the best time to do a gender scan? I want to book mine for 15 weeks but is this a bit early?

EEK WTF!

FTM here... 40 weeks today. all of yesterday, i was having braxton hicks, and what felt like period cramps, and he was moving more than usual. currently 3am and i decided to see if i could feel my cervix. it feels like a freaking BOWLING BALL IN MY VAGINA. is that my babies head? wtf??? it's literally a hard mass. didn't feel like that last time i checked. i'm scared to have sex now lmao

He’s here! (Positive story)

Due 4th May but woke to my water’s breaking the morning of 28th April. It was pink, so I feared it’d be like my first where I had to be induced and on labour ward from unexplained bleeding but this was blood in the waters, which is fine apparently.

I nervously headed to triage to confirm it was my waters and due to group B strep, I started on 4 hourly anti-biotics straight away. Throughout the day, I was contracting infrequently, but some were really strong.

A dr had said that I can labour without intervention until about 6pm and if no progress, they’d talk about the hormone drip. I was determined not to have intervention unless completely necessary, however 6pm rolled around and I was 1cm dilated and posterior cervix, and wasn’t contracting in a pattern. I cried, thinking that I’d “failed” and that they’d be along to discuss induction at any point. They didn’t. It got to about 8pm and contractions were ramping up a little, giving me a little break between bursts to get my breath back. They suggested an examination, and I went for gas & air for this examination because the first time was pretty uncomfortable. I was 3-4cm and although initially I’d hoped I was about 5, they put wheels in motion for me to go to the birth centre (just along the corridor).

That took a while and had to stop a couple of times for contractions. Got myself sorted in the birth centre room and whilst they were doing the initial observations, the contractions really ramped up. Listening to baby’s heartbeat after every contraction for 15 seconds each time became tricky for the midwife because some contractions were back to back.

I laboured on a birth ball for a short while, still had my knickers on 😅 and after a few contractions on the ball, I felt my body begin to push. I said this to the midwife amongst puffs of gas. Next contraction I felt the need to move off the ball, we discussed me going to the loo (I had a bladder protection plan in place) but I couldn’t face it. Next contraction, managed to kneel on the bed and got my knickers off finally and I think these were back to back contractions because in the movement from the ball to bed, I was making the most deep involuntary noises and the head was born. Everyone was in shock and awe that it’d happened so quickly. Next contraction and the midwives guided baby to twist and out he came! I was in shock and awe myself. Two contractions and baby was born and not really any coached pushing, just trusting my body!

It was a little tricky to deliver the placenta, I tried pushing but I don’t think I had any push left after ejecta-baby 😅 tried sitting on the loo to push placenta out but no, they grabbed a senior midwife who coaxed it out. I had to then go to theatre for a 3rd degree tear, which I cried about but honestly, the whole experience was worlds away from my first birth 3 years ago (I had dilapan rods after unexplained bleeding, quick labour, felt body pushing but encouraged to get on the bed for examination, baby’s head was right there so coached to push on my back, had an episiotomy to help baby out but the healing wasn’t great and ended up with pelvic floor issues from an hour of coached pushing on my back. Then had feeding issues, sleep deprivation and mild PND from it all).

Even after a trip to theatre for these stitches, I feel far less tender than I did the first time, I’m slightly more emotionally stable so far (although today is day 3) and feeling so empowered and strong from midwives actually listening to me. I have barely slept but feel better rested. It’s just more positive all round.

need advice!

I (22) just had my first baby a month ago now via c-section due to physical pain that made me unable to push. I love her and I would've loved to have another one but the pain is so unbearable that I dont think I could have another one. Did anyone else feel this way? Or could give me advice of how to bring it up better to my husband?

C section

Hey everyone, I’m 37+0 and meant to have a planned C-section (medical reasons) but still haven’t been given a date yet.
Just wondering when you guys got your date and how many weeks you were? Also what week did they book your C-section for?