Venting

I don’t know what to do I had my daughter in December and her father and I got back together a little after I got pregnant. But now that she’s here he never tries to spend time with her help get diaper or formula and if I ask him to get her to give me a break he whines like a child. We technically still have the title of gf and bf but we don’t act like it we live separately and I have our daughter almost 100% of the time beside when he is supposed to have her three nights out of the week while in at work but he will always try and get my mom to watch her because he’s “too tired”. But even when he actually does have her he blows up my phone screaming, yelling, swearing and just being nasty because he doesn’t know how to handle her but the thing is she’s just not use to him. It’s just said because he even has a 3 year old daughter with his ex and he has her more the his other daughter. I just don’t know what to do anymore.

Show your support

Focus on you and your daughter and what is best for the both of you. Ask for help and if he chooses not to then that’s on him. You cannot force him to have a relationship with either of you. If he wants it make an effort, that’s on him. We cannot have expectations of people…when we set the bar high and they cannot hit it it sets up for constant disappointment. Hang in there.

I understand he’s the father but it’s time to let him go and work on yourself there’s a lot of help out there you just gotta look for example state help. And if you have a strong support team from your family ask them for help. That’s what I did with my 1st child and we got along fine before I met my fiancé

I think Ik deep down my decision that I’m just done with him in general but I think I more scared of how he’ll react and be nasty

If you think he will be nasty with his reaction make sure you plan this out with the help of family and friends. I’d hate for something to happen to you and your daughter.

My mom is my rock if it weren’t for her I don’t know if I could have done it. I just don’t want my daughter to have the kind of relationship with her father of what I had.

He sounds borderline abusive, which is dangerous. You should take yourself and the child away from him, 100%

Yeah he’s just not the kind of guy I want or need. I need a man who will be there. Treat me right and my daughter

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