Would you consider your husband watching a cam girl and finishing himself off cheating?

He said he watched one with many other people at the same time and I was pretty devastated. I mentioned to him before that I thought watching cam girls was crossing the line because it was a live person. I wanted to get others thoughts on if this is a bit dramatic. It's not acceptable to me. He watches porn and that grosses me out but the fact that it is live feels like cheating to me. A live stream with a bunch of other people feels like a virtual orgy to me and I can't get over how betrayed I feel. What are your thoughts?

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Is he masturbating in front of these other people too? I’m sorry id be absolutely devastated and definitely say it’s cheating in my eyes. X

I think the key here is that (as @Sie has said) he did something he knew you considered crossing a line. Therefore it doesn’t really matter what other people think, to you it’s cheating. Xx

I watch cam girls & finish myself off. I don’t see it differently as regular porn 🤷🏻‍♀️. Also that’s how it works, each cam girl or couple has their own chat room. It’s not like it’s personal. My husband prefers regular porn, I go back & forth.

if you don’t like it and told him it feels like cheating and he did it anyway then it’s cheating !!! personally i would be done cus if he watching the cam girls then he clearly doesn’t need me!!!!

Everyone has their own rules to what they consider cheating, so for you and your relationship, if it was expressed that you think it’s cheating, then it’s cheating. I personally don’t consider porn cheating in my relationship but I do consider any event that can be altered, people they know on any porn website where they can talk to them in person or any live interaction cheating… so cam girls are cheating to me, but asking people on here some will agree and others won’t. Cheating isn’t fluid across the board so yeah, if you are feeling like you were cheated on and expressed that to your partner, and he knew it and still did it, yes it’s cheating.

I agree what the ladies said above. You communicated a boundary and he intentionally crossed it. If you’re having trouble calling it cheating, maybe calling it “a betrayal” better resonates?

Does he talk to them like can they tell to each other text while masturbating if yes then I think it's cheating if it's just watching and getting off I think it isn't it's just like porn just them doing it right at that second and I think since he intentionally kept doing it after you said how you felt and didn't like it then it's cheating because you already expressed his you felt and that's crossing a line by itself

Yes I’d be hurt. My fiancé has already told me he only had eyes for me. Now imagining him getting “hot and bothered” by another woman would hurt me

I use porn personally as a tool to help with the sex drive discrepancy between my husband and I. I would have sex with him 3 times a day if I could. It’s not that I’m more attracted to anyone in porn or desire anyone else. I just need to get off, and porn helps me get off quickly so I can get on with the rest of my day