If she planned on staying in a hotel then, she might still have that in mind. On the phone call your husband can ask her about that, and if she hasn’t booked a hotel yet there’s another reason to post-pone the visit. Even if it’s only by a few weeks, it’ll give you time to prep mentally
Thank you ladies. I told my husband but I know he’s upset. I feel so bad because it’s his mom and he hasn’t seen her in 3 years. That’s the bigger problem, she wasn’t planning on staying in a hotel. He told me one of the kids could sleep with us and my mom can take their bed. Everyone is going to be so uncomfortable. He’s giving me options to the reasons I’m giving him. It’s frustrating. I don’t understand why she can’t just come for our youngest daughters birthday that way she has time to find a hotel and more money saved on our end to help her if needed. So I know I’m going to be looked at like the bad guy for saying no after he already told her okay. She’s crying to him telling him she wants to leave for a little while and see us… which I understand. It’s just horrible timing.
I will allow the mom to come and visit. I’m sorry about your mom, I cannot imagine how difficult it’s for you. But now you are a wonderful mama who deserves to be celebrated. Maybe think about that day as the day it means for you and just a the calendar day when unfortunately your mom went to God. If it has been 3 years of your husband and your kids not seeing their grandma I will totally allow her to come. The space is very small, but if she feels uncomfortable guess what? She will find a hotel. However just make a sleeping plan. One of the living room kids sleeping with grandma it’s just one week and they usually love it. Try to enjoy the time with the family. You will survive a week and you do not need to hide the living situation, it’s what it’s for now. But things will always get better just make a plan, she maybe can babysit the kids while you go to dinner with your husband and you all as a family can go to the beach during the day.
He calls his mom and says, “Sunday is too short notice, so sorry you booked before we could give you an answer. I will help you rebook your flight with the airline, there shouldn’t be any extra charge if we do it soon. Does X work for you? “ You could tell her about the job loss, or not. And ask if she plans on staying at your house, it’s ok but she’d have to be comfortable sleeping X