Over It

My husband & I been together 12 years we have no children, been trying to conceive for 7yrs, did IVF 3 times, we are blessed to even be able to pay for that 3 times in a row. We been trying to independent adoption. I've waited patiently & tried long enough. I was asked am I doing IVF again & that's a big fat no, was asked am I still going to try to adopt. My response if the opportunity present itself. I was told it sounds like im giving up. I am not giving up but I will not be forcing or even trying anymore. Normally women post about abortion or adoption & I take the initiative to reach out ,but not anymore. If someone happens to see my profile & wants to reach out then I will engage. If my husband & I are meant to be blessed to be parents biologically or through adoption then I guess maybe will happen. At least I can always say I tried & did everything I possibly could. I focused on that for so long knowing that if we adopted we would be forever grateful & blessed also provide best opportunities for child/children & love, support unconditionally. I forgot to focus on other things as well. If it happens it happens if it doesn't then it doesn't. For the mothers considering adoption may u blessed with strength, comfort all things you need. & for the hopeful adoptive families i pray you grow your family soon. Be blessed.
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Have you thought about adopting through the foster care system?

@Jentri thought about it yes. Not the route we want to go. Feel independent adoption would be best for us.

Hey @Sunshine. I’m so sorry you are going through this. Although everyone’s journey is unique, I know somewhat how you feel. My husband and I have been married 12 years and have never been able to get pregnant. We are just now starting our adoption journey (about to have our profile go ‘live’ online soon) and I’m very anxious about the wait that many people experience. Just know that you aren’t alone and your feelings are totally valid - it sucks. A lot of people won’t understand, and I try to just be patient with them, but also give myself space to process how I feel when I can’t be patient with them. When I get down, I pray that God shows me other ways that I can be a mother in other areas of my life, and where I am called. Leaning on my faith has been really helpful. And I don’t think you are giving up by saying “what happens, happens”. I’ve had to channel that energy a lot, and I feel like it’s a healthy way to live and trust in what is meant to be. Thinking of you 💜

@Aiden thank you for that. Praying for you on your journey.

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