Help plz!!!!

I second Raven’s question. What are your dominant thoughts about your husband?

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Thank you for updating. I’d offer this as my husband and I recently went through something that sounds similar. First, what are you hoping the outcome to be for your marriage? Second, if you’re hoping for saving the marriage, you’re going to have to work on your thoughts about your husband. From what you shared, it’s become your habit to focus on the negative. It was the same habit I had cultivated in my marriage. So what are your favorite things about your husband? It will be hard to answer this initially because you’re out of practice, but keep at it. What can you be grateful for about your husband today? Second, get clear on what you think needs to change? How do you think he’s different now from when you married? How are you different? How can you show up in a way that’s focused on love instead of hate? ❤️💐

I appreciate you bringing up the points of looking at the positive & I’m really negative - you are right