Rent

Fuck yeah they'd charge me! Maybe not that much but even if they could afford to help me out, they don't have endless money! And I wouldn't want to live off them for free either. Even if they didn't charge me, I'd be paying by cooking dinner every night or other chores to show my appreciation and earn my keep

I don’t believe that parents should profit off of their children by charging market rates, but I’ve always contributed my share of bills, groceries, taxes and property upkeep. So somewhere in the middle!

they wouldn’t charge me but i would definitely help

From the moment I was in paid employment and not in full time education I paid rent at home. Not a full rent wage, but a contribution to bills etc. I still had enough to save as well and spend!

I asked my mom to lower it and she said no, that her expenses are too high. I don’t feel we should love for free but I’m asking her for help and she said no.. I feel alone and like I can’t count on her. I now have to sell my car to be able to afford paying her rent

What would she do if you weren’t there? Would she be renting out the room to someone else? Are you covering more than just your share?

Yes my parents would charge. My parents charge me interest if i borrow money from them ( lower interest rates than borrowing from a bank) and there is a repayment plan, but if at any point i needed the money i know they will pause it, i still will have to pay them in the end but i get a bit of a break while things stabilize. Maybe suggest reducing rent now but making up the difference later? Make sure it is written down and you have a plan to make it happen.

@Sarah no it would be unused. I cover full rent which is $550 and $150 towards utilities. She makes more than my bf and has help from my dad so I don’t understand why she can’t help us out

Damn that's rough, i get sharing expenses but rent?

700 between two people to pay sounds extremely reasonable tbh.

@Reli depends on location, near me average rent for one bedroom is about $2400 a month, i don't think you can get an under the stairs cupboard here for $700 🤣

Yes my mum used to take half my salary

We lived in my partners self contained garage and we paid rent, it was £300, over priced for the space. My parents never did when I was at theirs

Yeah, my mum charged me rent from 16 years old from my crappy little part time job, she took half my wages.

Girl $700 a month plus utilities is a lot, that’s sad that parents would charge that much. I would look for a 1 bedroom personally so you can at least have your own space. Do you know how much their mortgage is? But wow I would never do that to my children. It has to be reasonable.

@Reli only one of us is working. I stay home with the baby

@Sierra I agree. I wouldn’t do that to my kid unless he’s just being lazy. It covers the mortgage and more

my mom doesn’t charge me but i give her money or buy food or buy house necessities bc its only fair. i dont like livin in someones home for free it feels wrong

once I graduated college my step mom was going to charge me rent so I got a job and moved out to pay to have my own apartment.

Nah my parents would ask me to chip in what I can i.e. groceries, water, etc. Although we would insist lol

I lived with my mother in law for a year and never charged us, she wouldn’t even accept money for the food. And I know my parents wouldn’t do it either

I’m going to be honest, it’s a sticky situation. On one end you are their child and I completely understand that you feel like them charging you 700 is a bit unfair. I can also see that with y’all being there they are taking on more financial responsibility. If I brought my boyfriend into my parents house I would pay whatever they wanted. They don’t have to take in grown adults regardless.

Defo yes, not as much as a full rent/bills, so we would still save money, but you’re grown ups, you 100% should somewhat participate

My mom wouldn’t charge, but she knows that I would help with the bills. See if you can find a studio to rent until you can get back on your feet.

My exs mom charged us 1k a month for the unfinished basement since her other grandkids were under her guardianship. It was frustrating..an made it hard for us to move out.

@Nina I completely agree that we should be participating but we pay the full rent and then some. The rent is only $550 and we pay $700. There’s 4 other ppl living in the home and we pay so much. My bf is the only one working and I stay home with the baby. My mom makes more than my bf. It just doesn’t make any sense to me

We pay “rent” but it goes towards bills and expenses my mother in law still has 4 other kids living with her. We pay $780 a month and my partner pays that. It’s still a lot cheaper than renting our own place in SA

I asked my mom to lower it a little because if not, I’ll have to sell my car and she said no…. It’s not like we’re bums. I’ve worked my whole life, I’ve paid her rent since I was 18 but she’s being unreasonable in my opinion

I live with my old cousin. Her home is paid for. Between my mom and me we give her 900$ a month and she still isn’t happy. And she lets her dogs piss and shit all over the house. The piss stains are turning black from sitting so long. I stay contained in my room. And the house is hoarded. Fk her i ain’t giving her shit else.

My parents charged me $100/week when I first graduated college, then upped it to $700 or $800/month the following calendar year? I briefly lived with my husband’s family due to some roommate issues when I first moved closer to him. They charged me $400/month because his mom wanted to charge me but not him. In comparison, 1 bedroom apartments in our area run about $1200-2000/month.

To be honest, all these answers are not gonna tell you anything bc you already know your situation is unfair, your mom doesn't want to help you, the reason is unknown. My mom took my husband and I every time I needed it, and she never asked us any money, nor for rent nor for food,anything. Of course, we helped, but it was never asked. If you and your mom have a bad relationship, that may be the root of the problem.