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First off hugs mama! That had to be so hard but also such a brave thing to do knowing it was for the best. I think with time it will become easier. Do you have contact with her? I think that can be helpful. I am an adoptive mom to two littles who were given up at ages 4/6 due to parental rights about to be terminated. If you want to chat please message me

Also therapy can be so helpful this is something you can’t do alone. You need that support as you work through all your emotions

Megan, so sorry to hear this and that you are struggling. I adopted around 2 years ago so maybe I can help ease and give you the other viewpoint. You are not a bad mom at all. I’m so grateful for my kids birth mother and am sure to talk about her a lot. I don’t think anything I can say will help you, but I wouldn’t have had the chance to be a mom without our birth mother ❤️ I wish you peace through this time 💚

It sounds like you knew it was the right choice and you have a connection with the adoption family. Those are both good steps. I would say journal, writing out your thoughts and feelings gets them out of your head. If you are religious at all maybe find a church that you feel like you can connect into.

Thank you, i really need all the hugs I can get. yes it was the hardest thing to do I sometime regret it but I had to do what was best for her.. Yes I do we have an open adoption so the adopted mom and I keep in touch and I get to see her when I can and I'm currently on the waiting list to see a therapist so hopefully once that comes thru it help out because I never knew how hard it would be @Arlene

Thank you so much @Allison I would like that because this is so hard on me and it's making my depression more difficult I never thought I would have to do this considering I was in and out if a girls group home and my husband being infoster care himself so this been very hard on both of us

@KERRY thank you I will Def start doing that and yes I just got a find good catholic church where I live at we only got one here in my area that is close

Thank you ladies for the help and tips I really do appreciate it in this difficult time

Yes, journal your current thoughts! Then, decide how you want to feel about your daughter and the situation. Once you write out how you want to feel, brainstorm what thoughts will help create those feelings. (i.e. if you want to feel at peace, love, happiness, etc., then thoughts like: she's in a happy home that loves her, I gave her everything I could at the time, I know I made a great decision for her, etc.). Then post those thoughts all over the place - sticky notes on the wall, an alarm on your phone, lipstick on your mirror - whatever you need to hear those thoughts many times. Your sadness likely comes from your uncertainty about your decision... but that decision is done, so be intentional about being at peace with your decision. You've got this mama!

Hang in there! Grief has come up for me also and time is healing.

Thank you for the suggestion I will Def try it out @Angie Grandt Im trying to but it seems hard.

@Jessalyn I'm trying I really am trying but it's Def not easy. I'm sorry to hear that keep your head up if you ever want to message me you can