Relationship advice

So I’m not married and I’m only a few week pregnant with my first but my bf and I have been together for almost 2 years and we’ve lived together our entire relationship and I’ve pretty much done all the house work I didn’t work for a year about 8 months after we started dating so I took on the wife roll then I got a few jobs and switched between them til I found one I liked mind u I still did all the house work now with my bf sometimes he’ll have random times where he’ll ask if I want help but my ocd is so bad and I’ve always played the house wife in every relationship I’ve been in I always tell him no but since being pregnant and maybe even right before finding out I’ve slacked all the way off I mean he’s been okay with it cause he understands I’m tired and this is my first pregnancy but when I do I feel so bad cause then he won’t eat or whatever but since he only randomly gets these times where he wants to help out around the house I texted him a few days ago or maybe even a week ago

And told him look I’m exhausted this is all new to me I’m going to need you to help out more with the house I’ll deal with the litter box and take the necessary precautions I need to to make sure it’s clean and I’ll handle all the laundry cause I know u hate it but I’m gonna need help with cleaning and cooking I just don’t have the energy to deal with everything and he texted back and said he understands it’s okay he’ll help just let him know when so I suggest just sitting him down and saying look it’s hard for me right now I need your help and if he won’t help stop doing some shit around the house and let him see how much u really do

Sorry for the long post lol

@Anastasia I would stop doing stuff but we live with his grandparents so they would tell me to do it anyway

Girl u need to tell them ummm tell your grandson to get off his ass and do something too then cause I’m not a Molly maid and I’m definitely not a slave so unless your gonna pay me to clean up and take care of everybody then everyone else needs to chip in on house work too you gotta put your foot down girl…… do u have any family or friends u could possibly stay with for a week just to disappear for a few days so you’ll be appreciated when u go back home

@Anastasia I will thanks girl

Good luck to you hope it all works out boo

My partner is exactly the same he’s been off work for like 2 weeks now and does f all with house work or looking after our son even on the days I work he just plays his game🙄 and when I say he doesn’t do shit he says “well who does the yard work” I’m like mate you do the yard once every three months when I beg you to do it. I almost left him last week but I couldn’t follow through. I don’t know it’s a hard thing when you have babies with them Sorry wasn’t really helping just wanted you to know that your not alone 💕