Am i the only one?!

I am the same! You are so not alone. I can’t and don’t let my baby cry for longer than a few minutes, and mostly when its fussy crying.

I would never let my baby cry and I couldn’t care less what my boyfriend thinks I’m holding my baby that’s that don’t upset yourself and the baby Obviously he won’t be a baby forever and need you to cuddle him always, he’ll grow up eventually there’s no point forcing a baby to do things

Exactly the same here! We co sleep at night and have some contact naps during the day and sometimes he will settle in his pram. I also can not let him cry, I feel awful! He’d get so worked up, I really couldn’t do it. I’m keen to get him sleeping in his next2me again but I just know that when I try, it will be a sleepless few nights of perseverance (if it ever even works!) and I just value our sleep too much atm 😅 but am fully aware that it’s gonna get harder to do it the longer I leave it. Also with the sleep regression coming up, I’m wondering if he’ll end up back in our bed anyway for the sake of getting some sleep, so what’s the point 🤦🏼‍♀️😅

I hate when she cries, if she’s just fussing and like whinging then fine but full cries I don’t let go on for more than a min, I have to hold her and like you if I can’t, I cry too

My little girl feeds to sleep in the day and then contact naps but at night feeds to sleep then I can transfer to her next2me but she’s up every 2/3 hours. I would never let her cry 😢 it upsets me too much! Make the most of the cuddles as they won’t last long, only seek help if it’s causing you a problem x

I am the same. I cant stand my little one crying, makes me sad. X

I was the same, couldn’t stand my baby crying and wanted to comfort her straight away. She’s 15 weeks now & we used to co sleep but since a week ago now she sleeps in her cot. Before she never liked it but once i tried it was fine, I got her a new sleep bag the Tommee tippiee one which she likes a lot, slowly I kept trying to put her down more, would still comfort when upset but then once she was fine tried again.Just ease your way into it slowly no pressure, also you could get a baby nest pod to try out. It’s all trail and Error really but do what you feel is best and what your comfortable with.

The crying out method only works because they learn that you won’t be there for them when they’re asking for you. They still feel the same pain and have the same needs but they will stop crying to preserve energy so they can fend for themselves because you won’t be there. There’s a reason it doesn’t feel right. You’re their carer and protector and babies are not yet ready to do this world without your full support. My opinion if you didn’t already gather is that it’s cruel to let your baby cry it out. And contact napping is perfectly healthy, safe and creates a bond. Embrace these times. Your 20 year old will not want to nap on you x

Thank you so much everyone for responding. Wasn’t expecting so many of you reply. I’m so glad i’m not the only one in this 😊

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The group I’ve shared is a GREAT one for this kind of thing. Full of like minded people who are against any form of sleep training. It’s so supportive xx

Personally if my partner ever said that to me, I’d throw him in the bin 😅 How anyone can listen to their baby cry is beyond me. I get upset when my daughter is crying when I’m on the toilet that I take her with me, I took her with me in the hospital after my c-section too 😅 My first daughter was 5 months when she stopped contact napping &my little girl is 14 weeks and the contact naps are already reducing and it’s so upsetting, I just want to hold her! There’s research out there that suggests that babies don’t see themselves as a separate ‘being’ to us until around 6 months. Hold your baby mama, don’t let anyone stop you x

Girl , my baby is 13 weeks and contact naps during the day. Good news is he is learning to sleep on the bed and we did slowly. One nap at a time and rest contact naps . We failed some times n he got up as soon as put down … but there is no need to let your baby cry to sleep. I can’t do it and there is no need tbh. When babies are small they feel lonely in this world as they are still adjusting n they need your warmth. Give it a slow try n they will learn for sure. Pls inbox me I can help you with how to phase it out slowly.

@Ameerah could you please send me the link of your sleep bag ?

@Shivi hey, I got it from Amazon. https://www.amazon.co.uk/Tommee-Tippee-Original-Newborn-Snuggle/dp/B082QFR73K/ref=mp_s_a_1_2?keywords=Tommee+Tippee+Baby+Sleeping+Bag%2C+The+Original+Grobag+Snuggle%2C+Soft+Cotton-Rich+Fabric%2C+3-9m%2C+2.5+Tog%2C+Pink+Marl+https%3A%2F%2Famzn.eu%2Fd%2Fg3j1NhS&qid=1686350056&sr=8-2

Hey please don’t let the baby cry and try sleep training before they are more than 5 months… before that they are not developmentally ready to sleep independently… it breaks my heart to see that husbands asking to sleep train while they don’t even look up and read or research whether the baby is developmentally ready or not 🫠😩😩

No we are doing the exact same! You will build such a beautiful attachment with your baby doing this so just do what is best for you and your baby, don’t listen to anyone else 🥰

I never did any sleep training with my first son and he slept through around 2 when he was ready and still sleeps well most of the time. Second baby I will be doing the same. Sleep is developmental and you can’t really change it that much and it’s more stressful to fight against it.