Confidence with being naked

Does he make you insecure about your body? Does he tell you things like you don’t look very well or you should lose some weight or things like this? Or just the way he looks at you maybe? It has to be something. Cause for example I am insecure about my body especially not that i am pregnant cause I gained a lot of weight and i am ashamed to even wear shorts in front of someone else. But my partner makes me feel beautiful and have 0 problems being naked in front of him with 1000 lights on me. Literally 0

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@Ioana she said he boosts her up so that’s not it. It’s a her problem, not about him.

First you should ask yourself what bothers you about your body and see if you can change it by the gym or simply doing morning affirmations. The gym has always help me feel better or eating healthier.. I’m the same way, my husband tells me daily I’m beautiful and he make me feel beautiful.. I just don’t like how my body has turned out after 3 kids but then I realize my body could be a a lot worst.. Before I used to take myself out on dates and learn myself all over again.. sexually and all..

@Constance I’m actually not sure I’m not very big so I don’t think it’s my weight that bothers me since having my little girl I have put a stone on which I do need to loose I eat well I’m not sure if it’s more of just getting embarrassed? My mums abit prude so maybe it’s to do more with growing up and my mum being prude (not blaming her but she’s really unconfident and again I don’t know why my dad adores her and always says how beautiful /nice she looks) but I find it sad when it comes to me wanted to take my clothes off because my partner is amazing and always says he doesn’t see why I’m so unconfident at times but to stand in underwear I’m fine and getting naked in the bedroom I’m fine it’s just the thought of standing there and I don’t like maybe I need to do what you have done learn myself and try and look past the embarrassment feeling x

I think getting in touch w/ your body again. & creating a deep gratitude and love for it. I get what you mean about the lack of confidence naked. I used to be lean and toned with a tight stomach/6 pack. I’m pretty close to the same size I was pre pregnancy, but I’m just not tight and my stomach is so much softer than I’ve ever been. I’ve stopped speaking so poorly about it when I look in the mirror and instead find things I do like and compliment those out loud. Then when it comes to the things I don’t like as much, (like my stomach), I find the next best sentiment which is gratitude, amazement. Thanking my body for changing to create the optimal space to carry my daughter. Our bodies are fcking incredible and powerful for being able to adapt to bring human life into the world!! Sit with that for a moment in the mirror. 🤍🤍

Also, we tend to avoid parts of the body that we don’t like. Spend time touching your stomach while lying down or maybe your legs in the mirror. Gently, softly fingers running down it, maybe firmly going across. Get curious about your body. The more we get curious & create space to get intune with it, the more we can appreciate it instead of being a critic of it🤍 Hope these suggestions made sense. Feel free to DM me! I’m a personal trainer and am passionate about helping woman find their confidence again after having babies. And it’s not just about going to the gym. It starts much before that. 🫶🏽

@Kelsey thank you so much for this !!! I’ll send you a dm xx

My husband is like you. I have no idea why? He’s actually filled with shame about himself an if you saw him he’s 38, 6ft 1, shredded from daily gym and looks like a Greek god! Yet, im 8 months pregnant full of wobbles and stretch marks and I couldn’t give a rats ass! Confidence is in your mind, it’s not about your body. I tell my husband he looks great every single day and to embrace him body, he tries but he still locks the door when showering (unless I say don’t cause I need to get in) and he uses towels and turns his back to me to put his boxers on! Even when we have sex he isn’t particularly confident, it’s such a shame. So if you find the solution let me know cause I know this is an internal battle he’s had his whole life.

@Caroline it’s really sad I no I wish I wasn’t like it and I have no reason to no one ever made me feel insecure or uncomfortable it’s just my head I’m just so critical of myself I think the only think I can do is work on it but I feel like that’s easier said then done ! Hope your husband gets more confidence in his self also ! I no how he feels we are our own worst enemies xx

It’s sad, but know your partner thinks you’re amazing and i look at my husband all the time and think he’s so attractive. But even today to go to a hospital scan he asked me which colour t shirt goes best with his new shorts lol. And when I suggested any, he came over with 3 changes 😂so for times sake I have to say a colour! Honestly, just force yourself to go about naked! Don’t look in the mirror, just think of it as an exercise. Jump out the shower and put your clothes in your bedroom and then you’re forced to walk about nude! Stuff like that will stop the shock factor over time as Its probably the oddness of it too. I hope you find your inner confidence soon, I’m sure you will.

@Caroline thank you so much lovely I genuinely feel like this has helped and I’m definitely going to make myself give this ago !! Xx