Advice on MIL
So my MIL came to visit with her sister to visit my husband, me and our new daughter for 3 days. From the first meeting my husbands aunt asked me what will our daughter call her grandparents, and I responded everyone will be known as grandma and our daughter will get to choose what she wants to call her grandparents. My MIL completely dismissed what I said and stated she will be known as memaw and once baby can speak is when she can call her whatever. I felt very disrespected because not only was this said in front of her sister whom I never met, but my MIL completely dismissed what I had to say and made her own rule when I clearly stated otherwise.
Furthermore, my MIL has been making plans with her sisters and hasn’t really spent much time with her granddaughter. I told my husband we will be keeping our 4 month old daughter on her daily schedule, if she wants to spend time with our daughter she should not make so many plans because my daughter only has a 1.5 hour wake window between each feedings. Last thing I need for her to say is I didn’t get to let her spend time with her granddaughter.
Am I in the wrong? How can I go about approaching my MIL?
Grandparents having a preference on what they are called is funny to me bcuz the kiddo will call you what they want. My mom is grandma to my niece. That's great but like did you really expect a 1-1.5 year old to come out slinging big words like grandma? He calls her Nana and he calls my husband's mom grandma and he's 2.5 and it's how he differentiates between my parents and husband's parents. Also, don't let her guilt trip you. Baby's rest is priority so if she misses out,that's on her not on you. I'd just let her know the times baby won't be sleeping. If she shows up, cool but if not, no sweat off your brow. It's not your job to make your child available on their schedule.