First time anal, didn’t hurt? 😳

Yes it did hurt

Honestly, it’s probably because you guys were having a good time. I’ve done anal before my baby & my man is pretty thick and honestly the first time didn’t really hurt. Breathing throughout the first stokes really helped. Also a ton of lube.

Relaxation is key to having a pleasurable O

Yes you need to be very relaxed and comfortable. But feeling "numb" isn't something I've ever experienced, so it's possible that your episiotomy caused some nerve damage. Just make sure he's careful so you don't get hurt ❤️ have fun!

I feel like pleasure is key. I've had times where I'd think I didn't like it and it felt great and then others were I thought I wanted it but it was a mistake. 😅

As an ex sex store worker (who has had to take classes/training) and personal experiences: a huge part of anal play is Comfort ability. When you trust your partner is going to listen to you and you feel relaxed that relaxes muscles in your body as well (including your anal muscles) which definitely helps. You don’t ever want to necessarily feel “numb”. You want to be able to feel down there just in case any tearing occurs. I always recommend using a lubricant! A water/silicone hybrid is the best to use. A pure water based lube can absorb too quickly into skin and may have to keep being reapplied and a pure silicone can sometimes feel too thick or sticky and be less comfortable. That numb feeling isn’t anything to worry too much about though, it very well could have been you were expecting much more pain and when you didn’t feel much, you could only describe it as “numb”. The penetration of anal doesn’t really feel the same as vaginal due to different nerve count.