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@Hillary thank you so much for the advice, support and for not judging. I really needed that. I’ll look for a similar organization in my area.
Girl I hate your husband too! Call legal aid and join a mums group in your local area and ask anonymously what local support there is for struggling families. All newborns are different and I certainly couldn’t have worked with any of my three.
Leave girl. My ex husband cheated on me through my pregnancy not with one girl but multiple despite him coming home to me at night All he wanted was sex. And I didn’t want it and sometimes it was forced I started crying but eventually I just let him cause I was trapped I had my own apartment my family but I felt tttapped and I was trapped so good I didn’t see a way out I was told to quit my job, couldn’t go back to studying and I was thinking about it. I took a year off from studying for the baby but I did everything myself mentally emotionally and physically. He would come home (self employed ) whenever he wanted But his cheating never stopped Some girl called at 3am and I pretended I wasn’t there I said pick up the phone I’m recording everything I took tell he was uncomfortable but I ddmt care I gathered my evidence all of it And I left when baby was 3 months I was behind on my rent Bevause all my money went on his house He never bought me or my son anything
So what I’m saying sorry is It does get better My son is 10 months He still doesn’t care If he comes around he just wants sex and he plays ahout 5 mins with his son and says put him to sleep He can’t pick up the nappies , doesn’t wash anything So what’s the point And I’m going to cut it off oneday all together His going abroad for 2 months and this last week he wants to see his son other then that he hasn’t bothered and he sent me a crap messages last night saying I’m a bad mum etc I find it so easy to ignore him seriously And I always tend to respond back straight away
My family told me to leave, but it has to come from you mentally you need to prepare he won’t change. If it’s not with you he wil do it with someone else
Yeah he’s a cheating lying narcissist scumbag and he’s well and truly trapped you. I personally would get out asap before the post baby hormones kick in and he’s practically nailed you to the stake. Are you in the states?Can you speak with your health care provider on what options you have available and say youre in a very dangerous, abusive relationship? They will put you in touch with the right places and you do not need his sorry little cheating ass! He will be cheating with anyone who will have him, cause he’s the deeply insecure one who can’t live with any true happiness. He wants to pull you down because he needs someone to be in the gutter with him.. you definitely deserve better and I’ve seen this so many times before. Narcissists end up with nice people, cause they’d never tolerate anyone like themselves so just be mindful to get out and know you’re better than him and that’s why he needs you in his life so bad! But not out of love, out of providing an ego kick for himself!
@Shamima you also need to ditch this guy! He sounds like SUCH a looser! No women wants a looser for a partner, you can definitely do better! Just don’t let moments of weakness make you act, go do an online self live class or exercise class when you do so you’re treating yourself better and not worse trying to get breadcrumbs of affection from this spineless fraction of a man!
@Caroline I left the guy. I’m just trying to do parents and that’s the only thing he can’t even seem to do
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@Shamima ooh sorry, I thought you said he still comes round for sex and to play with his kid for 5 mins?! I’m so glad you left him, so many asshole guys out there it’s time they learnt there lesson.
Yeah I left him, but when he drops our son off, He wants a quick sex
Leave. Leave now. Leave before the baby is born. This is one of the very few none medical reasons I would terminate a pregnancy as early as possible. For MYSELF. Not recommending it for you as that is your business. I’ve been with men like this and worse and the thought of being baby trapped by any of them is terrifying. At least one of them I fully believe would have murdered me eventually. Unless he dies or decides he doesn’t actually care and leaves on his own he is ALWAYS going to be in your life. He will always try to control you. You will ALWAYS be on high alert survival mode for both you and baby because of him and I’m so so sorry. I’m sorry you and your baby are going through this and dealing with a pathetic excuse of a human.
@Ashley (Momo) I agree with Ashley, I just didn’t want to be the one to say termination could be an option. But especially if you don’t want a baby anymore. You don’t want him in your life forever, but he will be if you have this baby. Unless you’ve got a court approved reason why he can’t see you or your child then you’re stuck forever. He’s well and truly got what he wanted. I really hope you’re okay girl and I’m sorry to suggest the termination because I can’t imagine what my life would be like if I’d terminated and hadn’t met my beautiful son but I fear you’d be in danger keeping this poor excuse for a man in your life. What would happen if you stopped being blind to some of his manipulations, would he get angry? Be even smarter with it? Stay safe sweet, I hope you find someone who deserves you🩷
You must leave and go no contact. It is the only way he will EVER learn if you go no contact. I’ve done it and my bd didn’t have contact with me or our daughter for 3 months. It pushed him to get the help he needed and now he is back in our lives in a healthy way. X
I understand completely the feeling of being stuck in a pregnancy & not being able to work or feel financially stable to raise the child on your own. I was so surprised at the amount of community support that was out there when I asked the right people. There is an organization where I live called Haven of Hope & they can do lots of things, mainly getting Order of protections & helping women. That is where I started when my fiance became abusive & I left with our 2y/o son while 8 months pregnant. I hope you can find somewhere like this or find a similar resource to help you. I wish you the best of luck & remember that you're not alone. Also on having a newborn - be prepared for any & all emotions. Its insane how fast your hormones can make your mood swing with no warning. If you feel depressed PLEASE talk with your ob about trying a medication for the time being. It is not your fault the way you feel, hormones are not controllable & you can get through this!!!