Would you give your child your exs last name if you are no longer together?
I put my exs last name along with my last name on my sons health card but not the birth certificate. Everyone kept/keeps on saying no he shouldn't have his last name. At the end of the day, regardless of the shit-u-a-tion, that's my sons father.
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No I wouldn’t personally but you’re not wrong if that’s what you want to do☺️
i only hyphenated our son’s name on the BC out of respect since he is both of our’s and it’s the fair thing to do but i didnt want to put his Dad’s last name at all lol because i knew i was going to do most of the work, and we arent married or anything sooo why does ur name deserve to be there ??? and actually when i told everyone i was hyphenating i got alot of backlash saying that he should ONLY have his Dad’s last name, which just itritated me more lol but i feel good about the hyphen and it doesnt bother me
Unless he wasn’t going to be a part of your child’s life, I would. Like you said, regardless of the situation, he is the father. Also if you ever get married and change your last name, your baby wouldn’t have either parents last name.
Like said. I would still put both unless he’s not going to be involved.
I have 3 lids with my ex and I left him right b4 I had the last one, I gave him, his last name anyway because 1 my last name is dumb 2 so he would have the same last name as the other two and 3 child support, I cannot work because of my epilepsy soooo
Yes, I did give my exes last name. Even though he was a huge dbag. Later in life he can ask the court to add his last name. It's a pain if they do, I recommend at least adding a hyphen on the birth cert. And when you do other things you can leave the hyphen off.
I feel like if my son wants to change it one day that's up to him. Although, my ex hasn't met my son yet bc of a court order.
No
I think you're totally justified to put whatever combination of your names or just one of them you are most comfortable with. Double barreling makes sense (until they marry someone with a double barrel last name who wants to keep their name and they end up with 4 last names). But other than that future issue, I completely get why you'd want to do that. Putting just your name would be totally justified, you carried and birthed the child, you're the one presumably doing most of the work to raise them why shouldn't you be allowed to do that.
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