Is it ok to co sleep during sleep regressions?
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Do what works for you. I don’t co-sleep in my bed because my dog is allowed on the bed. But for the first nap of the day (sometimes a very long nap), we both sleep on the sofa. I have a sofa bed, she stays on my chest with a boppy pillow around her. I love it.
@Jamie thanks yes he mostly is good and I put him down drowsy always and all naps, just from time to time when hes not consolable. The closer it gets to the morning the less melatonin he has and if its 4am its easier to make him sleep at all costs because otherwise he'll just stay up til wakeup time at 630 or 7! I was just looking for reassurance it won't undo all the hard work we've done to teach him to self soothe so thank you
@Christabelle it was a long journey of ups and downs for us with our son and his sleep. As long as you still keep him sleeping on his own some of the time he will get it eventually !
I went through 2 straight months where my son was waking up every 45 mins - no shit - all night long. And nothing seemed to change that (temp, pj's, routine, bedtime, food, nothing). I have never felt worse in my entire life, to the point where I was dizzy and nauseous all day and barely keeping my eyes open. I'd love to hear someone make the case that its safe in any capacity for a mom doing things on her own to be in that kind of state taking care of a baby. I was lucky I didn't drop him half the time. You have to take care of yourself too, or your baby isn't safe. If that means you have to find a safer way of cosleeping (getting guard rails, sleeping on the floor, etc) then you have to. My therapist reminded me all the time that sleep deprivation is not only a form of torture, but actually starts breaking your cognitive abilities down to the point that you yourself become a danger to yourself and the baby
@Reena thank you! Yeah I feel like I'm gonna miss the cuddles when he doesn't want them anymore just want to make sure I don't overdo it and he is able to sleep independently too
@Brenna omg that sounds painful! I am definitely sleep deprived and he's waking 3x per night normally (4x now with regression 🫠) its already killing me softly so i cant imagine every 45 mins
Everyone has to do what works for them, but there are a lot of scary statistics about cosleeping. Like 50% of infant deaths are from cosleeping. It was enough for me not to do it, but if you’re going insane from lack of sleep then 🤷♀️. Do you have a pack n play that you can put them in right next to your bed?
Oh my twin girl did this to me last night. Woke up at 2am, fed her.. then wouldn't settle, her stomach was a bit hard so gave her gripe water, she slept for 40 mins.. woke up then wouldn't settle so we co slept on the couch til 6am 🤷🏻♀️. She just didn't want to go to sleep at all ;-;
I co slept on her 4 month one. Was a killer the others I tried sticking to her cot, but you’ve got to do what works for you x
You can cosleep whenever you want as long as you follow safe sleep guidelines. It's been a lifesaver for me! I don't think I'd get any sleep otherwise.
@Ashley the bassinet we have can be attached to the bed but we have kept it at the foot of our bed separated for now! I co sleep when my partner isn't around usually. Like he gets up at 4ish to go to work so usually it's just me and baby in the bed. I think once he starts actually rolling I would definitely be too scared to co sleep but for now he is an immobile potato so I can keep an eye on him
I co-slept some nights during regressions. Mostly the 6mo, 9mo and 12mo ones (hahah yes my son hit many) and at 19 months he’s still in his crib and falls asleep by himself and sleeps through most nights . If you can, do it just here and there for YOU to get enough sleep but still try to help him learn self soothing methods too on the other nights