I caught my boyfriend of 4 almost 5 years sexting with a trans woman and I was the one in trouble for catching him😞I’m not even allowed to bring it up and it’s only been a month since it happened.

Honestly leave him! No man is worth this amount of heartbreak! He’s already cheated once and is doing it again.

I personally would suggest chatting with a therapist because the deeper issue here is how you can still love someone so much who evidently does not love you and who has no respect for you. I hope you find the self love and strength to leave him and realize just how much better you truly deserve.

Personally I wouldn't of taken him back after the 1st time

I hate the saying but "once a cheater always a cheater" he won't change. Leave him before his deceit gets worse! You deserve so much more. If someone truly loves you, they don't put you through any heartache. It's not fair to you or your child. You got this!

To put it bluntly he begs for you back because he knows you not going anywhere. And why are you not allowed to bring it up? He needs to take ownership not bury his head in the sand.

Heck no. If you’re in a monogamous relationship, then he needs to talk about it. He owes you that much. Doesn’t matter if they never met in person. Hurts just as much. If you stay, be prepared to be more open to exploring that side of him. Otherwise leave because that’s part of his true nature and he probably will always continue to seek it out even if he has to go behind your back. Good luck, mama.

Girl I think u should leave if he texting and fucking and god for bid u get something u can’t get rid of so I would walk away and move on it’s clear he like man it’s clear he likes to cheat

I’ve been through this before and I left him, I found everything out on my own 3 1/2 years later. He never wanted to talk about it and it would make me angry because I deserved the truth. Claimed he never met anyone and it was the drugs he was on that caused him to do it etc. it’s not worth the heartache and headache. I was so turned off by him after finding out, I couldn’t even touch him or look at him. Do what’s best for you and baby girl. Y’all deserve better

the first time was with a woman from From another province.. now this trans woman is only an hour away..

I have a friend who is a trans woman and they love to be with straight man

he just gets mad if I Say I’m still thinking about it.. says we’re supposed to be past that and if I can’t get past it then I need to figure my shit out.. I need to “stop being childish and bringing it up”

it’s probably a huge confidence boost😞

The AUDACITY of that man! Honestly!

I just can’t look at him the same.. the night I found Eveything out he was so angry then it changed to crying and saying he doesn’t know why he risks our relationship.. last time we broke up he begged sooo long for me to come back.. and I did and that’s when I got pregnant:/ now our daughter is going to be 2 in December

Nope not your fault. Don't do it if you can't wear the aftermath!

I have nobody to talk to about this because if i told anyone close to me theyd just be angry with me and think I’m stupid for staying.. wouldn’t bother to hear me..

You are not stupid. You will leave when you are ready to. Some people are out the door straightaway and others need to find the courage to move on. We can all tell you what we think but its nothing you dont already know. May i suggest you think of taking a break from him to clear your mind and give yourself a breather? It can be hard to make decisions when you fall back into the same routine. Remember we only get one life and you are in control of how you choose to live it. You can be so much happier without him.

He promises me so much but then everyday is cruel to me and doing suspicious things on Snapchat.. he blocked me on Snapchat because I was asking him about some of his stories he was posting because they were like lovey quotes and selfies which he never posts that kind of stuff.. maybe me just overthinking but considering the past I can’t just ignore the little things.. I do over analyze Eveything he does now and I catch myself accusing him even when he could be innocent.. but I remind him that he made me like this and hasn’t even been able to build trust for longer than a month..

Im confident that you are not tripping he is doing shady Shìt and blaming you for knowing he is wrong.

He says he’s allowed to talk to whoever he wants though and I can’t control who he’s friends with. Says I should just be happy knowing he’s with me and coming home to me everyday…

Girl you need to leave him cus no

Oh he’s one gas lighting arsehole! He’s gay and is struggling with it. You are where he believe he SHOULD be. In reality he wants to be some bird with a 5 o’clock shadows’ play thing. Babe get fuckin rid. It’ll only get worse. You are not a comfort blanket nor an option! I think he’s talking a load bollox buy saying he’s never met up with any of them. Do not trust this man. Get him OTF!

I feel like how can it even get worse than this:( they are literally the most straight person ever I thought.. this person he was talking too is very feminine.. but still has male parts and I was shown the pictures were exchanged… and messages…

First thing is her being trans has nothing to do with it. I’m sorry this happening to you, but it really doesn’t, the issue is him cheating not her identity.

I had been talking with this trans person so that’s why he’s angry about the audio recording because the trans woman didn’t believe me that I was with him and that he was saying he doesn’t like men.

I'm so sorry he's deflecting from the fact he's cheated physical or not he's cheated.

He's making out like you're the problem when he knows it's him but he's trying to put it on to you probably because he's angry he got caught.

Sadly men and both woman alike are known for cheating I even read that as high as 70% of men cheat in a marriage and 46% of woman cheat.

I think once trust is broken it's such a battle to get it back. The only way to move forward is for the person who's cheated to take ownership and prove in every way they can they have no want or need to do that again and sadly in this circumstance he doesn't seem remorseful. You deserve better.

He keeps begging for you back because he knows you’ll always say yes, a comfort net if you will so that he doesn’t feel alone when he’s not contacting one of these side pieces. Honey you should never ever let a man make you feel the way you’re feeling, regardless of who he is. It’s horrible for your mental health and your daughter does not need to be brought up around that dynamic, it’s so damaging for children to see their parents this way. You can do this, I have faith in you. Sometimes keeping a family together for the sake of having that family label isn’t worth it. Know your worth, you must be such a strong woman to put up with all of this. It doesn’t matter how you get out, just tell him that you’re done being taken advantage of and that it’s the last time. Of course he won’t believe you, but he will when you turf everything out and get the locks changed while he’s not in🤷🏻‍♀️. Sending much love your way, you’ve got this❤️

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. You don’t deserve to be cheated on & you should take your next steps knowing that 💗 You also deserve to be in a relationship with open & honest communication.

I also think it’s important not to invalidate trans women during this conversation. This interaction doesn’t mean that your partner is gay or bi - trans women are women.

He is beginning you to take him back because he knows you will accept him no matter what. You are still young and you are beautiful, don't waste your time on someone like him

I realize Her identity doesn’t have much to do with it but the fact I feel even more betrayed that he’s cheated with someone that identifies as a man and a woman at time is even more hurtful in my opinion. I feel as if you should Express whom you are attracted to in the beginnings of a relationship.. maybe that’s just me

I in no way want to invalidate trans women at all I am very much in support of the LGBTQ community but this woman still has male parts and the fact that my bf was a attracted to those specific parts and sending photos of them to each other was a little concerning that maybe he’s not only into women..

I just Think your partner should be honest about their sexual orientation..:/ specially when you’ve been together for almost 5 years

Hes sexting other women. After u forgave him for cheating. He's still cheating. Throw the prick out!

It always amazes me when men get caught lying and somehow it’s the woman’s fault smdh. anyway I don’t think I could fathom the cheating plus him engaging with a trans woman, I would also look at him differently. Hopefully you find the courage to be strong and do what’s best for you and your daughter !

because you allow him to come back he will. men will settle for who ever will settle with them .. girl if its not what you want pleaseeeee RUN .. it will only get worse and if he showing he likes trans and your not ok with it … at that point the relationship is dead no point in staying

he blames you .. itd called narcissistic!!! and us woman are a lot of times afraid of being alone we stay even though we are so far from being happy. So I just hope it all works out for you and you make the best decision of matter how hard it is. Hope all works out for you girl.

Apparently this has happened many times. He isnt going to stop. Also you shouldn't bring it up because he is embarrassed and angry?! Thats insane. You have the right to bring up the topic and discuss it. The hell. Weird behavior coming from him. I hate to say leave him but girl, something isnt right and its seems to be draining/stressing you.

Yea. You need to leave. The only time you can stay with a cheater is if they confess and want to stop. If it’s more than once that you catch him, it means it’s habitual for him. My dad was a big cheater and it makes me so sad to see how my mom wasted 25 years of her life. Leave ‘em young. Don’t wait

Babe look at how he talks to you .. It’s not healthy please find the courage to leave for not only yourself but for your daughter

@Morgan wether it's a different province or only 5 mins down the road I still wouldn't of taken him back.

As soon as u take a cheater back they knowthey can do it again

I just don’t know how to go about leaving. I feel so guilty leaving him and idk how I ended up with the guilt. He laughs when I tell him he should talk to someone too.. I keep hoping I’ll find something else just so that it gives me a reason to ask him to leave:(

This man is gay or bisexual. He is angry and taking it out on you because he is in denial about who he is attracted to. No way would a straight man engage with a trans woman who still has male parts. I think in your heart you know that he is gay. He is angry because he hates himself for not being true to himself. Leave. He isn’t attracted to you.

BOY BYE 👋🏽 you are way too beautiful and still have SO MANY GOOD YEARS ahead of you. Kick him to the curb and collect child support! Lucky for you that you aren’t married, stop wasting your youth on this confused mofo taking full advantage of you. Know 👏🏼 your 👏🏼 worth! (Not trying to come off as bitchy, you are way too good for this man and you already know it!) 💜

He begs for u back bcz he knows you will always give in no matter what. Ur his safety net and he knows it’s very unlikely that any other woman can tolerate him. It’s not because he loves u or cares about u because that is not the case. He is just using u as a crutch. I know it’s hard when u hv a child with someone to remove urself from the situation. But this type of guy is dangerous and can expose u to diseases. What if u get pregnant again by him? You’ll be in even deeper by a bisexual or homosexual man that cannot be faithful to u. Leave while u still hv ur health. I was entangled with someone I was almost %100 convinced was gay. It was soooo hard to get myself out of tht situation bcx at a time I loved him so much! But he was very resentful bcz he knew I knew he was into men. The signs were GLARING and I mean GLARINGGGGGGGG.

He cries to me after he does something wrong and acts like he cares… Says he doesn’t understand why he risks our relationship for stupid stuff like this…. It’s not like It’s just stupid stuff anymore though like he’s been virtually cheating for years and maybe even physically idk:( I know he’s been with women well we were “a part” even though he was still constantly pursuing me..

I think he has resentment towards me know as well because I’ve seen that side of him I’ve seen the vulgar things he said to this trans woman that has a penis and I know trans women are women to but no straihht man would send Dick pics or receive dick pics if they were straight.…:(

NO! they are not women. Stop. Ur gaslighting her. 😡U want to be politically correct so much tht u are total invalidating her experiences and her feelings!! STOP! Why would u even bring up trans rights as if tht is all this post is about? He is habitually unfaithful & she is heartbroken !! If u cannot show her support, advice on how to move forward or give her resources to help her cope with this situation just keep quiet! Men tht are attracted to men tht dress like women and have penis’s are NOT straight! Stop making her feel like she is wrong for feeling how she feels!! Ridiculous!

thank you..:( that’s exactly how I feel.. I have many family members in the LGBTQ Community I’m in no way trying to be rude but no straight man would be okay with a penis ! He’s never been homophobic either but anyone that knows him would NEVER think he would be bi! So it’s such a huge shock to me that the one man I thought was obsessed with women has shown otherwise..

damn … I’m so sorry you are going through this.

Thanks so much for your support it honestly means so much 🥺 this is literally the first time I’ve spoken to anybody about this