My husband told me I don’t deserve a push present because I’m getting a daughter? Thoughts?
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.... what is a push present? Idk what it is or the context, but it definitely feels like a mean thing to say.
@Cheyenne Marie I think we should get one. Yes it took both parents to make a baby. But the woman does the work. We grow the child , our bodies change drastically , we then go through the pain of contractions , and then possible HOURS of labor. Push presents are a thing in MY opinion.
Idk if this is a mean thing to say 😅 but it sure as heck seems like it! Is the implication here if you were having a boy you would get a push present? I mean for the record I'm not getting one that I know of, it's not that hubby isn't attracted to that idea we r just poor af...and with the cost of really everything rn I get it
I've never heard of them- but it kinda sounds like it really depends on the person and couple on if "they are a thing" or not. OP- It also sounds like- unless your husband is an obvious jokester/smartbutt- that it's a pretty brutal thing to say... I hope he figures out his priorities before your daughter is born.
@Cheyenne Marie i didn't even know what a push present was. 🤷 only thing I'd ever want is my baby and food. Not hospital food
@Cheyenne Marie that's pretty much what I did for my first born but into a piggy bank. This time all I can think about is having a nice tray of sushi after delivering, which might just be my cravings talking lol
Push presents aren’t a big thing it’s nice to get a gift or something from your partner them showing they appreciate putting your body through everything it’s not a must but I do think it was a mean thing to say you don’t deserve it
My boyfriend said if I’m getting a push present then he deserves one too 😂😂
I didn’t get a push present…didn’t know it was a thing until I got on this app. I don’t see a point in them.
What does the gender of the baby have to do with a push present? It's a present to reward you for PUSHING THE BABY OUT. These men are wild I swear.
@katelyn um, no. He's not pushing anything out of his body after growing a child for 9 months.
Who cares about push presents 💁♀️
@ShyAnne okay, but for him to imply that she would deserve one if she was getting a son isn't wrong to you? I don't think there's anything wrong with having a partner who gets you a little something for growing & pushing out their child!!!! It could be as simple as flowers or favorite food.
It depends on the situation. If it is common with the people you know to give and receive a push present and there is an expectation that you would get one, the comment is disregarding what labor is for you. If this was never something on your husband’s radar as an expectation, I can see why he responded that way. It is fair that him saying you don’t deserve it when others have would be upsetting. I think this definitely requires more conversations between the two of you. I would like to think his comment for not deserving it is more on the lines that he thinks the present giving as a whole is not normal and that most couple who conceive generally understand what the labor process looks like and the consequences of it. My family has never done push presents. If I told my boyfriend today that I want one for our day, he would be confused. Let him know what about his statement bothered you and why it matters to you to get a present.
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Who is he? King Henry VIII? Just kidding. Honestly I think push presents are stupid, the baby is the present. Buttttt he shouldn’t discriminate between it being a boy and a girl, and if it’s important to you, he should be there to validate your feelings.
I never knew this was a thing until a couple weeks before birth and my husband was listening to my TikTok and after babygirl was here he came back with flowers and my favorite candy. I honestly just think push present aren’t really necessary unless it’s very important for you. I do love the gesture of appreciation but maybe it’s not his thing.
@Daja see that’s sweet though that’s a nice gesture.
What on earth that was rude of him to say :(
Was he intending to be funny or something? I also found out about the "push presents" through this app (I'm also not from this country) and I'm so getting something lol. Probably a ring or nice bracelet, something I can engrave my baby's name or date of birth. Haven't decided yet!
I wouldn’t say it’s “mean”😅 it’s not a common thing with most cultures and before having my son I had never heard of it. But I personally don’t need/expect a gift for giving birth, it’s kinda what we were made to do and the child is a gift.
How rude of him. And here I am just wanting BD to pay half of the delivery costs.
What was the conversation that led to that statement?