Feeling so overwhelmed.
I am 37 years old, married with 2 of my own and 2 bonus children (11, 11, 6 and 2). My 11 yr old and our 2 yr old live with us, my step children comes every other weekend. My husband and I both work full time, I am a mental health caseworker and my husband works at a restaurant. My husband works 6 days out of the week, so his only days off is Mondays. It’s been overwhelming for me taking care of the kids, especially dealing with my 2 yr old, now we got a puppy. I sometimes feel like I am a single married mom. It’s hard to spend time as a family and as a couple. I kind of regret getting the puppy because it’s too much work, energy. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I just feel lonely as well.
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Maybe let your husband know you are feeling overwhelmed, let him know you want to spend more time with him. It’s better to have that communication with him than to just leave it and feel like this. Otherwise you will always feel as if you have not got any support. Communication is key 🔑. Also, puppies are a lot of work, but they are lovely to have around, they are comfort of joy sometimes, and you will find that they make you happy too.
I definitely agree communication is key but we have talked about that multiple times and unfortunately that is the schedule for his job, the restaurant is only closed on Mondays, so not much we can do unfortunately.
That’s a lot!!! Just take it one day at a time & give yourself grace. Also delegate responsibilities with the older kids- chore lists & set rules - I was a nanny to 5 kids ages 2, 4, 6, 8 & 10 once & found a very strict schedule in 30 min intervals really helped so everyone knew what was coming & used the “fun” activity time as a reward along side a red, yellow, green stick system for behaviors: they would have to remove a stick themselves when they broke a rule & we made the rules together so no one could complain about them- they only got to participate if in yellow or green standing. Try to do activities with them that kill 2 birds with one stone- like a cooking activity that makes their lunch or the clean tornado game that entertains & cleans the house. Try to include them in puppy responsibilities to teach them & eventually take some responsibility away from you. Hang in there your doing great mama!
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