That’s what I think it seems to be too I’m afraid 🙁
I’m no longer serving. Unfortunately it just didn’t work with both of us being in with our eldest child. I may talk to pinnacle and see where we stand if it’s a carer rather than an au pair, his social worker has been pushing full time carers in the house for a while but I’ve been keen to avoid it if possible. Maybe it’ll be more for welfare reasons if it’s health related (which the au pair is, we have to hire specialist ones with healthcare backgrounds, I suppose on paper it just looks like childcare rather than me having to provide round the clock care.)
Are you both serving? As far as I understand it, you're only entitled to an extra room for an au pair if you're both serving. Otherwise, it would be a 3 bed. My friend had an au pair as a single mum of three. She has recently got married again and had a 4th child and she has lost the entitlement to an extra room as her husband is not serving.