Cry it out
Opinions on crying it out. I have never done it my baby makes a one peep and I come running but I do have friends that use this method really they are my husbands friends not fine and my husband looks up to them as parents bc that’s all he has and sees I really honestly want to parent opposite of them in every way I do not judge them I think they are great parents just not the way I want to parent. My husband got mad at me tonight bc I said I will never let him cry it out. Like slammed a door stomped off and yelled at me. His friends will let there babies cry for hours. I don’t let mine cry for over 2 min. Am I being too much? Should I let him cry it out. I cater to him but he’s an infant any a few months old he just wants comfort and love in my eyes he will only sleep in my arms and not In a crib or bassinet so I hold him 12 hours a night. My husband gets so so so angry. But I’m the only one up with him he sleeps til 10am every morning and I get up at 5 with the baby and all night and I work 7am to 5pm 6 days s week it doesn’t affect him idk why he’s so angry. Am I too much?
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you can’t spoil a baby, if you want to comfort baby DO IT don’t let him tell u otherwise since it seems like he doesn’t help out much anyways. i disagree with the cry it out method it seems cruel and sad.
The cry it out method works for your husband’s friends families, but it doesn’t work for yours because apart from anything else it doesn’t align with your values!
Does holding your baby for 12 hours a night feel sustainable to you? Do you mind doing that? If it feels right to you then you don’t need to change a thing.
Ignore the pressure from your husband. You need to be the mummy that you want to be to your baby.
And if holding your baby all night doesn’t feel sustainable to you, there’s other methods that don’t involve leaving your baby to cry.
Sending love, you’ve got this xxx
No it’s cruel, listen to your intuition, you know what’s best for your baby xx
yeah I do all the wake ups and he’s up at least 3 to 4 times a night plus I get up with him drop him off at my moms then I go to work then I pick him up from my moms then I come home bathe him feed him play go on a walk then he goes down literally nothing affects him idk what he gets so upset and angry I also think it’s very sad, I don’t judge parents who use that method but my child needs me. He needs to know I will always be there and I love him he’s more important than my sleep or anything else really. Plus he’s hungry hahah
thank you… you worded that well. Yes it does not align with my values. His friends and even those same friends parents so the grandparents of those children are constantly telling me to let him cry it out, and I just say I’d rather Hold him. I don’t want to be rude but I hear it constantly. At first I did not like holding him 12 hours a night I sleep sitting up on my couch while holding him and it hurt my back and I didn’t sleep much. But now I find comfort in it as well the day he sleeps on his own willl be a sad day for me. Thank you for your kindness
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