FIRST TIME mom concerns
Im a ftm and I wanted my baby so bad. She wasn’t necessarily planned but me and the father always said if it happened we would own up to it obviously cus we weren’t doing anything to prevent it either. I had a semi rough pregnancy as we argued a lot and had some big fights through out my pregnancy. I tried to make the best of it though and keep a positive mindset. I Have a whole nursery for her done and have been preparing for her these 9 months. My whole family and his family is very excited and I had a nice baby shower. Me and dad are getting along as best as we can but in the back of my head it’s still resentment for some things he put me through my pregnancy that no women should have to go through ever. partially my fault cus Im not perfect by any means and have things to work on but anyway now that I’m almost 40 weeks for Reason I’m so scared to not have a bond with my baby or not feel that connection… I’ve not had much experience with babies or kids prior to this either so I’m just concerned that I won’t know how to take care of or act around my baby😭 idk if it’s cus all the ups and downs through out or is this normal ?? Will my
Motherly instinct just kick in? Im tired of being pregnant but I’m also very scared to be a mother! I’m so anxious. I can’t wait to meet her tho and just praying God will guide me to be the best mom I can be 💖
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The fact that you are worried about being a great mom is already a great sign that you can be one! Don't stress yourself. It is instinctual and immediate the love we have for these tiny people that come out of us. I know it's hard when your relationship is rocky and I can't imagine the pain of not being fully supported through this journey but you have got this!
That little girl is going to be a beacon of a love you never could have imagined I promise you that! I'm not saying that it's easy because there will be tears and fears and all of those things but there will also be such overwhelming joy from just seeing her for the first time that you will know you can get through anything for her.
And you are definitely normal for feeling these worries. Pray for peace as that is the most important thing you will need going into this next part of the journey.
I'm almost 39 weeks with my 3rd(first boy, my girls are 3 and 1) and I always say the good of these little monsters always outweighs any of the bad.
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