Visitors

My plan for when baby is here to allow for 2hrs max for immediate family and 1hr for other fam/friends and will pop all friends and family a message to say with a newborn and getting used to everything we all get tired easily so please know for the first few weeks we ask that you stay no longer than ** hrs so we can rest and make sure baby is not overwhelmed too

If you need to feed maybe say I'm just going to take some time out with the baby to feed and go to the bedroom and relax and feed if that's what you prefer. I would also say if you want them to leave maybe just drop hints, like thank you so much for coming today, I think we are going to go and have a nap in a minute. Or we were going to take a walk around the block soon, but it's been so nice to see you.

Also do not feel bad saying no to visitors if you can't be arsed! You deserve a rest and some time with your little family xx

I'll ve sending a message ahead of visitors explaining that we are having time slots to enable us to rest, so please respect our decision on this. When it comes to feeding, I'll ask them, "Would you mind just giving the dishes a rinse whilst I feed the baby?" Or something of sorts, or I'll say, we are off for a feed/lay down when needs be. I have a code with my husband for when people outstay their welcome or I start to feel uncomfortable, I will be asking him, "What bins go out this week?"So then he knows to get them moving on up and out 😅
Don't be afraid to be honest with people, too. I know some friends of mine, I can just ask to leave, with others, we have to be tactile!