Is this too strict?

I don’t think it is too strict at all, and at the end of the day it doesn’t really matter what anyone else thinks of it other than you and your partner. I was thinking about sending one of these out via email to family, but after verbally explaining the guidelines and getting such negative reactions from both sides of our family my husband and I just decided to not bother. We are still keeping the same boundaries in place, but we didn’t feel like dealing with getting all of the tantrums/negative feedback at once. People will either get on board or they will have to wait to meet baby until they are older, but it isn’t your job to make them like your rules or to help them deal with their disappointment :)

It might sound harsh but if they wanna see baby they will do what they need to. I told my husband that when he smokes his cigars when he comes back in he needs to change his shirt wash his hands and his face because it’s proven that that can cause rsv. Just my thought but that’s something I stand firm on.

I don’t think it’s strict. You’re the mom boss and this is your baby. You didn’t go through nine + months of pain, alterations to your lifestyle, etc. for everyone else to tell you how to live your life after baby is born.
I went thru this with my bf’s family. They’re made at us but we altered it to better accommodate by saying okay well fine if you don’t want to get vaccinated, that’s your choice, but if not, you have to wear a mask around the baby. We’re providing masks, hand sanitizer and everything at our home for those difficult family members.
No kissing is very common because rsv is such a risk so stick to that for sure.
No smoking or strong scents is also toxic to newborns, so also stick to that for sure. If they do smoke, they have to shower, change clothes and be fresh before coming back.
Also tell them a lot of this comes not just from your own rules but hospitals sometimes have these rules in place too. For instance, mine made all our visitors wear a mask no matter what.

Also, in the end, you’ll have to reiterate a lot of these boundaries. We originally made this for my mother because we knew she would post to social media or tell everyone before us. Guess what… we called it, she told our extended family members before I had a chance and I immediately called her out on it. Reiterated this pic and said she overstepped my boundaries that she already originally agreed to.
Be prepared to fight for your baby, yourself and your boundaries. It’s okay momma! 💕

These are not strict at all. I got a ton of backlash from family too. It’s YOUR baby not your family’s baby. If they really want to see baby they will respect and follow your rules.

thank you to everyone for your advice! I’m going To try stick my ground with my rules.

I agree with everything you put! I’m not having anyone unvaccinated around the baby. And certainly no one attending school or in school around the baby until she’s vaccinated. They can cry if they want to. Babies don’t have an immune system. And they can build one safely at home until it’s no longer COVID/flu AND RSV season.