Struggling
I am finding things really difficult at the moment. My partner works away during the week so I’m solo parenting our 8 week old and 9 year old. I feel like things are getting harder and not easier. Struggling to get baby into a routine (heat not helping). He’s gone backwards with sleep, not sleeping more than 4 hours a night at the minute and last night wouldn’t even sleep in his bed so slept on me which is obviously not great and I only managed about an hour as I just kept waking up every time I nodded off as it’s not ideal for obvious reasons. I’m struggling to even find time to cook a proper meal so eating junk and it’s so hard to keep on top of any housework! Feeling totally burnt out and really down! Im also exclusively expressing which is a whole other job in itself. I’m not quite sure why I’m posting this but just needed to offload and maybe get some reassurance I’m not alone 😢 xx
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I'm the same! You aint on your own! I've been soooo emotional the last few days! Xx
Not much to offer but just to say I’m in a similar position as husband is a variable shift worker and works away. I’m trying to just embrace it all as this is my second and final baby and I know it doesn’t last forever. I’m finding keeping the eldest entertained and giving my attention to her the hardest 😫 feeling very guilty because it’s hard with a 2 month old stuck to you!
I’ve recently purchased some yfood shakes for nights when I can’t make a big meal and I’ve also batch cooked some meals to make those meals a bit easier.
However, I am NOT on top of housework and find myself apologising to my husband for it.
You have to do what works for you so if baby needs to cosleep then so be it. I found my daughter would fall asleep on me and I could slide her down into the bed. She seemed to settle there rather than the Next2Me so did that for a good few weeks and meant she wasn’t sleeping on me. Might be worth a try?
Feel free to drop a message if you need to vent 👍🏻
Your not alone… i have 2 under 2. Both girls … my partner works stupid hours and comes in at all times of the night or day. It’s unpredictable so it can make things really hard when routine is concerned for the girls … Dinner time is non existent in this house i just feed the little ones their dinner as soon as i can and try to keep them in check as much as possible and get them in bed at a sensible ish time. Doing it alone really isn’t easy, and i completely understand where your coming from where there’s no time to cook or clean. I can barely have a wee without kids screaming or crying now… My ‘me’ time is my toilet time 😅 that is my life now and i love them dearly as hard as it really is i wouldn’t change it. But please don’t feel alone because your not! Us mummas are strong eggs when we need to be even when times get super tough. Hang in there - things will get better… There will be harder days than others but you will get there , it just takes some time and adjustment. 🤍
Thanks guys ☺️ It is nice to know it’s not just me 🤭 my other half has been home this weekend so managed to catch up on some sleep and we’ve been out for tea both nights which has been nice to have some normality and to take the pressure off. I’m trying to think positively this week and stick to routine as best I can and not let things get on top of me. Like you say it’s not forever! Xx
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