So fed up

If I were you I would stop thinking of all the process and relax. In my case I was told I would never have children and I assumed that, and years later I got pregnant when I was 44 and I have a healthy daughter

honestly I try I don’t do ovulation tests I refuse to do pregnancy tests early I don’t try to look at app only when I’m updating it for what’s going on which isn’t often. They say to stop trying and it’ll happen but you can’t stop the thoughts is this the month and waiting every month for af to turn up for your body to torment you between the times

I say to myself every month it’s nothing it’s just normal it’s not this month so I don’t try to overthink it but it’s like my body is fighting me at every turn

In may case I thought I would never be a mum; other women get pregnant when they start an adoption process... Try to relax. And enjoy and sleep a lot. Being a mum is very exhausting and demanding. If you want write me in private.

Fortunately I’m a mom to two already 14 and 11. With th two it wasn’t planned so that was simple you don’t expect it and then it happens. Now with my new partner we want a baby as he has no kids and obviously my body’s allowed it before but now it’s not when everything so far is telling me I can. If the final testin jan tells me I can’t then at least I’ll have answers and a reason, but this limbo

Ahh ok I thought you didn't have children

If you’re spotting a good few days before af it sounds like you might have low progesterone which could be the only reason you’re not getting pregnant. Ask your dr about getting put on progesterone suppository during your tww!

we thought that too but apparently my levels are ok

Interesting, & your luteal phase is an ok length?

it’s hard to judge because of the spotting but Yh roughly 27/28 days

I spot most months roughly 3/4 days before but this is the longest

I was also told the drs couldn’t give me the progesterone it had to be the hospital which I won’t see until January

Ok so 27/28 days is your cycle length, what’s your luteal phase length, the time between ovulation & period. Most people’s are between 12-17 days (mines 14 most months but can be anywhere from 13-16), I know if it’s shorter than 10 days this makes it very difficult to get pregnant. That’s due to low progesterone though & you’ve been checked for that. I’m a little stumped, think it’ll definitely have to be a Drs visit. I know in America they can order a progesterone cream online, not sure about here though. Or I’ve heard of proov balancing oil, you could look into that if it does turn out to be a luteal phase issue.

So I’m ushually 12 days after ovulation but here I am 6 days now of spotting, nothing at all today and I was due yesterday according to my app and I’m now 14 days after ovulation

I’m at a loss then, it really does sound like it’s a progesterone issue. How long ago were you tested, might be worth getting checked again?

I’m the las 3-4 months 😪

Maybe get checked again, ask for a second opinion? I’m so sorry you’re going through this. If it’s not progesterone I just don’t know, it’s the only thing I’ve heard of that causes spotting in the tww. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I’m much just do that, I actually said the same to them that they’ve known about this spotting issue since the very beginning, and still have not picked up on it

I think it would be best, for your own peace of mind. That much spotting in between periods is not normal I don’t think. Good luck to you honey, I hope you get some answers!

Unfortunately I think they’ll just pan it off that stress and other factors can affect it blah blah blah. But I’ve been convinced for awhile about the progesterone

Maybe try & advocate for yourself, tell them you’re not happy with the way things are going & you want extra testing done. I know it doesn’t really work that way here, nhs & all, but certainly wouldn’t hurt to try.

Haha I tried that one said I didn’t feel they were doing much lol. Got me nowhere. However I did just check my app the month they took my bloods I didn’t spot so I had a good month … I’m going to try that as a base for further investigating

I hope something gives then, it can be such a long, confusing ‘journey’! 3 years in & ive had a few different progesterone symptoms the last couple of cycles that I’ve never had before (& definitely not pregnant), it’s getting very frustrating! I hope you get some answers!

I’ve had it since the beginning is what’s annoying and they’ve known it too as I went to them at the start to discuss it all. I always had a feeling I was catching but my body wasn’t able to hold on 😪

Ps good luck to you too it’s so frustrating. Even more so when you think they could be doing something and they’re not

It does seem very odd they aren’t taking it into account. It could be that it’s on his end that you’re having issues, if you’re not sure about him yet. Thank you hun, yeah it’s very frustrating when they won’t do anything to help. I know my issue is age, known that from the start. But because of covid & waiting lists I didn’t get my fertility appointment until after I’d turned 42 & it was there they told me I was now too old to get any help! Had no idea so it was bitterly disappointing to know they now wouldn’t do anything to help me. That was nearly 2 years ago now but we kept trying regardless. We gave up in December last year as nothing had ever happened, not even a chemical, then in February I get pregnant! Then (of course) had miscarriage at 5 weeks 3 days. So we know it can happen & we start trying again, nothing since then. We’re doing the same thing, giving it til the end of the year & that’s the end of our road. Have to just keep hope alive that we’ll get a decent egg. 😢

We just need to keep trying. And it’s such a frustrating thing to hear. I calmed down a lot since this post was an emotional wreck for pretty much the whole day. But AF needs to hurry up if she’s turning up!!! This month it is absolutely ridiculous

Same here, due in a day or two, mildly cramping away. My fertility app predicted my af would come today even though it’s too early so whenever I log in to it, it keeps telling me my period is late! So annoying!