3some

I wouldn’t for a lot of reason, but for this specific situation I’d also suggest that once it happens you can never go back. You’d be playing such a risky card with the two people that you love most, it wouldn’t be worth that friendship in my opinion ❤️

thank you for your input.. can i ask why you think your friendship never recovered? Were there feelings involved or it was awkward or something?
& i totally get that!! I know it’s not a problem of not being enough for eachother, it’s just something we both want to do! it’s going to happen, it’s just the question of with who!

kinda exposing myself here- but my husband asked for a 3some with one of his best friends.. to make things simple, let’s just say they haven’t talked in years and my marriage hasn’t been the same since.

with that said- you ultimately make the decision, however i would advise against asking your bestfriend.

Are you willing to lose your friendship if it feels weird or goes wrong?

Sounds like a risk to losing 2 very close relationships but that’s just my opinion

I had a threesome with my now husband years ago, and while it was a great time, I'm also happy that person isn't a permanent fixture/wasn't a very important person in my life

i honestly feel the chance of him falling for her or vice versa is 0% or close to it. Since nothing is impossible.. & like i mentioned above it’s not that our relationship isn’t enough it’s just something we both want to do! i fear going the stranger route because you never know with strangers what they will do or be capable of….

Honestly don't understand why your even asking our opinion it seems very clear u already made your mind up that your doing it so it seems pointless to ask us what we think. But anyway in my opinion u know both of them better then any of us if u feel there is no risk involved then do u .

A couple I used to be friends with had a 3some with another girl in our friend group.

They were engaged, had their wedding planned, 3 kids, beautiful house, beautiful life together really.

They had a 3some with another one of our friends and now the friend is married to him and they've had 2 kids aswell.

None of them ever saw it going any further than a one time 3some apparently and my friend (who was in the relationship) was adamant it wouldn't change anything. She's now lost one of her best friends since they were kids, her partner and the life she had.

It's sad to see and I know not all situations end up like that but I really would advise against doing it with your friend

Another couple I know, have 3somes regularly and sleep with different people separately regularly too. They never go for friends, no matter how tempting it is.

They always use apps and meet people on there, sometimes go back to the same random they meet on the app 2 or 3 times but each to their own with it I guess.

Just be prepared that afterwards it could cause issues in your relationship and/or friendship

Sometimes things are best staying as a fantasy too. You need to weigh up the pros and cons and really think about it.

I'd happily have a 3some but I could never whilst in a relationship.