Won’t let me put him down

do you have a sleepyhead? has been a game changer for me

@Ellie I haven’t heard of this? What is it?

It's not for everyone but looking up safe cosleeping is a good idea. Or if you aren't swaddling you could start to do that as it helps mimic them being held. Unfortunately it's totally normal for newborns to want to be on us all the time. It's how their brains are wired

My little boy was like this until around 2months old, we co-sleeped for half of the night

The Ergopouch sleep sack was a game changer for us. But your Bebe is still so fresh, you are his safe place. It takes awhile for them to adjust being earth side. Don’t worry too much mama it will get easier!

Mine was like this too as a newborn and cosleeping was the only way we managed to sleep. We followed the safe sleep 7 which my midwife had told me about on the second day when I had barely slept and it was such a game changer! At first I did it out of necessity and before giving birth I was very much against. I was humbled pretty quickly 😅 I absolutely love it now and wouldn’t change a thing.

This isn’t a learned behaviour. It’s biological, we are carrying mammals. You cannot spoil a baby, they only have needs. This is perfectly normal especially for this age. Research the fourth trimester, you are his safe place.. he needs you!! It’s only a short phase and you’ll miss it when it’s over. I know that feels impossible right now.. Co-sleepy has a guide on safe chest sleeping & safe bed sharing (only if breastfeeding). It’s tough, I know but trust that it doesn’t last forever. Nests and pods are not safe for sleeping, they’re a suffocation risk. https://www.instagram.com/p/Cw0llzyvhas/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

Swaddling helps the baby feel secure like when they were in the womb, finding something safe like a glove with rice in it to place on baby so it gives the feeling of a hand on them( while your awake during day, would not recommend for night time)

New borns cannot learn any type of behaviour at this moment in time. You cannot spoil a newborn by holding them too much. You are your babies safe space they have been carried for 9 months it’s perfectly normal for them to want to only sleep in your arms.

I had to cheat sleep with my baby when he was a newborn till about 7 weeks. I would sleep with him on my chest until he woke for his first feed and then was able to out him down in his crib swaddled. It seems so difficult now due to the exhaustion but it does get better. My partner is exactly the same as yours and I’ve never let him stay up with him in the night as I know he would fall asleep too so I have felt your pain.

Aww that sounds so adorable

Thanks for all your comments, I tried the swaddling and it seemed to work! Managed a whole 3.5hrs sleep lol so will definitely be trying that again tonight!

Ours found the next to me too big I think so we used his carrycot (certified as safe to sleep in) inside the next to me and it worked - really helped in those early days!

https://www.lullabytrust.org.uk/safer-sleep-advice/co-sleeping/ The lullaby trust has a lot of information on co-sleeping if you do go down that route. They don't state you have to be breastfeeding to cosleep. I've coslept with both mine which were formula fed and followed the safe sleep guidelines. I was very much in tune with them both whenever they shifted. It's not for everyone though. Some babies love being swaddled especially at 6 days old as they are so used to being in the womb, they still think they are attached to you - look at the 4th trimester.

Had same issue when my son was a newborn. I love co sleeping but I know it's not an option for everyone so if you are desperate but can't co sleep, you can let baby fall asleep in your arms then wait 15-20min. That's when they will cycle into a deeper sleep! You'll feel them startle in your arms and that's when you know they're transitioning. Give it like 2 more minutes then put them in their bassinet. They are WAY less likely to wake up when you set them in at this time. Can't remember exactly where I learned it but it saved me and my husband more times than I can count in the newborn days. Hope this helps💛