Am I being unreasonable?

Before I fell pregnant my partner and I always agreed that it’s best to keep baby names to ourselves and not share with family as they can put you off a name with all of their opinions. However, since I have been pregnant we have been struggling to decide on a name for our little one. I understand and appreciate that family and friends are going to give their suggestions. But my husband keeps telling his mum the names that we are actually considering and it’s really frustrating me as she is a very opinionated woman and if she says she doesn’t like something he instantly goes off it. I’ve asked him to stop sharing names with her as she then shares it with his dad and other family members but he continues to do it and I’m now at the point I don’t even want to tell him potential names I like until closer to the time in case he shares them with his mum again. Every name we were considering that he has told her I have now been put off as I don’t want people knowing the name before the baby is born. Am I being unreasonable for getting so annoyed over something so trivial?
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Yeah I’d be so annoyed! I’m annoyed for you. I wouldn’t even mention any others until closer to the time like you said, but what a shame that your partner can’t keep it between you both! Could you sit him down and just say it’s really upsetting you and now you can’t trust him to know any names anymore because he keeps telling his mum? I know my partner would feel terrible if it was upsetting me, but I don’t know how yours would react? I know nagging and bickering doesn’t get the message through in my case, but if I’m genuinely upset he gets the message straight away. Good luck!

not unreasonable at all! my husband keeps doing this too. my whole family hates the name we picked out 🤦🏻‍♀️ frustrating but we also don’t care as it’s our baby not theirs. i still wish he wouldn’t go telling all his friends and family though.

Not unreasonable I would talk to him about this and say I can't trust you to not tell your family and just keep the names you like to yourself and if he brings names up just say you tell your family so I'm not telling you any names until you stop telling your family that might be the only way he understands

I wouldn’t be too upset , he values his mom’s opinion. But I would sit him down and let him know that his mom does not have a say so on the baby’s name and that it is solely the two of you that’ll decide .

No, I would be very upset that he isn’t respecting your boundaries. You are in the right to feel that way.

Seems like a bit of an overreaction to me but if that's how you feel he should take that into account

🤢🤮Ugh. Annoying. I’d tell him you like names that are absolutely atrocious and let him run with it lol. They’re gonna talk bad about the names anyway - might as well give them something to really talk about Haha. But no really, tell him how you feel and say you’ll circle back closer to DD. keep a running list and make him vow to keep “the one” to himself. Good luck.

It isn't trivial. I would wait till baby is here and decide when you are alone for a few days with baby. It makes it more special when you have a face to the name and all those lovely cosy feelings. Just respect that he might want his families opinion too. Personally I think the name should be decided between the parents only but that is me. Maybe he feels different.

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