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3 days ago

Am I being unreasonable?

Before I fell pregnant my partner and I always agreed that it’s best to keep baby names to ourselves and not share with family as they can put you off a name with all of their opinions. However, since I have been pregnant we have been struggling to decide on a name for our little one. I understand and appreciate that family and friends are going to give their suggestions. But my husband keeps telling his mum the names that we are actually considering and it’s really frustrating me as she is a very opinionated woman and if she says she doesn’t like something he instantly goes off it. I’ve asked him to stop sharing names with her as she then shares it with his dad and other family members but he continues to do it and I’m now at the point I don’t even want to tell him potential names I like until closer to the time in case he shares them with his mum again. Every name we were considering that he has told her I have now been put off as I don’t want people knowing the name before the baby is born. Am I being unreasonable for getting so annoyed over something so trivial?
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yesterday

🤢🤮Ugh. Annoying. I’d tell him you like names that are absolutely atrocious and let him run with it lol. They’re gonna talk bad about the names anyway - might as well give them something to really talk about Haha. But no really, tell him how you feel and say you’ll circle back closer to DD. keep a running list and make him vow to keep “the one” to himself. Good luck.

2 days ago

I would be super upset! It’s something very personal to you and he needs to respect that. He needs to be able to choose a name he likes regardless of what his mother says. I would have a conversation with him about how upset it’s making you.

3 days ago

Seems like a bit of an overreaction to me but if that's how you feel he should take that into account

3 days ago

No, I would be very upset that he isn’t respecting your boundaries. You are in the right to feel that way.

3 days ago

I wouldn’t be too upset , he values his mom’s opinion. But I would sit him down and let him know that his mom does not have a say so on the baby’s name and that it is solely the two of you that’ll decide .

3 days ago

Not unreasonable I would talk to him about this and say I can't trust you to not tell your family and just keep the names you like to yourself and if he brings names up just say you tell your family so I'm not telling you any names until you stop telling your family that might be the only way he understands

3 days ago

That is annoying my husband did the same and I asked him to stop and he did, I would have lost it if he kept doing it. He told work mates but there options didn't matter so I didn't mind but he asked me first lol. Explain to him again and tell him if he doesn't stop what do think that's going to do with the trust in your relationship? If you can't trust him to keep a simple thing like a name to himself what can you trust him with? Such a small thing when you haven't even decided yet.

3 days ago

not unreasonable at all! my husband keeps doing this too. my whole family hates the name we picked out 🤦🏻‍♀️ frustrating but we also don’t care as it’s our baby not theirs. i still wish he wouldn’t go telling all his friends and family though.

3 days ago

Yeah I’d be so annoyed! I’m annoyed for you. I wouldn’t even mention any others until closer to the time like you said, but what a shame that your partner can’t keep it between you both! Could you sit him down and just say it’s really upsetting you and now you can’t trust him to know any names anymore because he keeps telling his mum? I know my partner would feel terrible if it was upsetting me, but I don’t know how yours would react? I know nagging and bickering doesn’t get the message through in my case, but if I’m genuinely upset he gets the message straight away. Good luck!

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