Breastfeeding and sleeping issues advice
Hi mamas, I hope y’all are doing well… this is gonna be a long post and I’m seriously needing help
I have a 4 month old and I’m having this big problem with her. She’s breastfed and I’ve always fed her in demand, she never took any pacifiers/bottles we tried so many! and didn’t really like formula when we tried (I’m at a loss here) at first I thought she was going through the famous sleep regression but at this point I don’t think it’s anymore since she takes long naps as long as she’s held. She was sleeping “good” during the night when she was 3 months old she would wake up 1-2 times to eat and go right back to sleep with no issue. Now I’ve been having to put her in the bed with me if I want to get any sleep… she’s rolling over on her tummy and gets stuck there since she doesn’t know how to roll on her back again again and wakes up immediately so I’ve found that she only sleeps better when she’s next to me however she’s comfort sucking SO often I’m losing my mind. She’s waking up every hour maybe hour and a half just to “eat” to go back to sleep, I can’t do it, for couple of nights was fine but now I feel she’s getting used to it and I don’t know how to break it.. she’s a really high demand baby and I love her so much but this is getting so hard for me, I see babies sleeping through the night breastfed and formula fed and I feel so jealous bc the most I get at once it’s maybe 3 hours if I’m very lucky… she’s sucking on me all the time and it’s starting to hurt since she has the bottom teeth out and also she “crawls” to get to me to eat and she knows exactly where she’s gonna find what she wants I’ve been trying to soothe her in different ways with no success, I talked to her pediatrician and he recommended to get her on a schedule eating since this could be the issue, she said if she feeds on demand during the day she wants to do it at night too and it makes sense to me but I’ve been finding it so hard during the day too since she won’t nap if she didn’t eat just before but I’m trying to make her wait longer after she wakes up however it’s maybe 2-2:30 min in between still and pediatrician recommended 3-4 hours… does anyone think feeding on demand during the day could be the cause of her wakings so often? If you have other babies before how did you manage it? Do they all start sleeping through the night at some point?😩 I also don’t know what to do with her rolling over all the time.. I try to put her on her crib to sleep for naps but she wakes up within 10 min and she’s rolled over and gets tired after 5 min…I’ve just been letting her sleep on me or on dad cause otherwise we have an angry ANGRY baby the rest of the time..ANY advice? Thoughts? This mama is losing her mind😭 today is one of those days that is been extra hard.. I try letting her cry too which makes me feel the worst mom ever but I have to so I can come back better cause between the LACK of sleep plus so much crying from her I feel like I’m drowning… any tips or help would be very much appreciated. THANK YOU IN ADVANCE 🥲
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i’m sorry you’re going through this. this is why i started combo feeding & doing breastmilk during the day, but last bottle of the night being formula. it keeps my baby full longer & she’s been sleeping about 8-10 hours every night for about a month. if that’s something you might be interested in doing then try introducing a bottle to her more frequently. maybe put some breast milk in it & squeeze a little that way it’s sitting on the tip of the bottle so she tastes it & understands there’s milk in there
thank you so much for the reply, you only do formula once? How did you introduce it I might want to do it again…
i made the mistake of getting my baby used to “comfort sucking” so we had to break that cycle. all day she would want to drink 2 ounces here, 1.5 ounce there. never a full bottle. so i realized it was causing her to wake up in the night. so when i started formula at night, i decided to keep the lights on until she ate atleast 3-4 ounces then after i shut it off to let her keep drinking until she falls asleep. i made sure that if she fell asleep before drinking 4 ounces i would wake her up. in the beginning she would wake up maybe 1-2 times, but we got into a schedule & now she sleeps the whole night. also having a very strict nighttime routine!! we do bath time every night before bed. now she knows bathtime means wind down for bedtime. hope this helps! you can always PM me too
thank you so so much! We do have a settled bedtime routine but since I’m exclusively nursing I don’t know how much she’s taking… I realize that I do have to break that cycle too.. what formula do you use for her bottle at night?
but in the 1-2 times she would wake up, i would feed her more formula. eventually it cut down to 1 feeding a night now none
i started her with Bobbie & she loves it. tastes just like breastmilk. i know it can be a bit pricey but it lasts awhile being it’s only being given at night!
Just wanted to commiserate as my boy also gets stuck in tummy time and then cries for help. Just put your head down! 🫠
I'm in the SAME boat!! My baby sleeps with me but is up every 1.5 hours to suck the boob to go back to sleep. And he doesn't nap during the day. I feel like I'm going crazy
what are you planning to do 😩 I don’t know how or where to start
right!! It’s like just try it you’ll be comfy!!
Formula does keep babies full longer 😊 They digest it slower then breast milk. Any pediatrician will tell you formula babies don’t eat as frequently. idk what kind of shade you were tryna throw, but she asked for advice in general. clearly she’s tried formula in the past so she’s not against experimenting outside of EBF.
wasn’t trying to throw shade. If a baby is waking up to comfort feed, formula won’t stop that. So her solution is not formula.
worked for us & it’s worked for others. another mom shared her combo feeding story with me, & ever since i tried it, my baby sleeps through the night☺️ you may be educated about BF so stick to that. don’t make assumptions on formula when you’re clearly clueless on it. i would love to educate but next time ask questions, rather then being an asshole with your false ass assumptions. i’m glad you deleted your other comment too, because once again, no it’s not a myth😉
girl what is up w you that you feel the need to come on here and pick a fight? We’re all just trying to be the best moms we can be and give advice from our own experiences. No one came at you for anything. If you feel triggered by something, deal with that.
I deleted it to not cause trouble and keep going back and forth bc from one mom to another, again we just doin our best.
It’s good to have multiple points of views, try different things, hear all sides. If you don’t agree, say your piece and move on. No need to @ someone & go off. Use your energy on your baby.
girl you were definitely trying to throw shade when i was giving what worked for my baby. had you kept your passive aggressive comment to yourself , i wouldn’t have had to @ you.
Hi mama- I had the exact same issue as you. As I was reading this - I was in the same boat. My baby loves to comfort nurse throughout the night every 2 hours .. and wouldn’t sleep on his own, only contact sleep. I actually paid for the taking cara baby sleep class and it’s been day 2 and already he’s sleeping independently (most of the time) including naps.. I’ll add a screenshot here of what has helped me
Hi!! Is your baby still sleeping independently using those steps?!
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