Would you feel comfortable?
My daughters, dad and I have broken up over two years ago. I’ve always allowed him to have supervised visits at his mom’s house. He is not always attend, but his mom has always been persistent his visits last for 2-4 hrs. I only allowed to supervise visits with his mother because he has a issue with drugs and drinking. We have always agreed that going to his mom’s house is the best option. But recently he has started a new family and moved almost 4 hours away. I have never meant the new girlfriend but she now has a baby. So my daughter has a new half sister and he has now requested that I allow him to bring my daughter to their new house 4hrs away. I don’t feel comfortable with this request at all. I’ve never met this girl and I do not trust him. He also has recently acquired his drivers license and that is a far drive for a new driver. This whole situation I don’t like, but I really don’t know how to handle it. I don’t want to withhold her from having a relationship with her father. But him taking her that far away is scary.
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I would not feel comfortable. What if he were to relapse? So many what ifs here. You are right that is a really far drive too. If he really wants a relationship he would take you back to court. Is the supervised visits with his mom court ordered?
Well it seems he's obviously changed his life and matured. Why don't you drive your daughter down there, and you both spend the weekend getting to know his new family and the new man he might be?
You could also see if they're willing to meet halfway. That way, you don't have to drive 4 hours there and 4 hours back.
It’s not a court order agreement. We just both said we’d be okay with his mom supervising. He does not want me to met his new partner. He’s concerned I will tell her everything he’s done to me. The day he wants to take her a Sunday and my best friend wedding so I can’t. The next day is also a school day
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