Baby daddy
So I’ve been in contact with my baby daddy to talk about arrangements with him for our son. (Remind you our son is 6 months old in October and he has yet to meet him), he is a pilot and is gone a lot… we’ve discussed plans for coparenting but nothing happens. He tells me he is in love with me and misses me and wants me back. (He has a wife). He tells me he wants to see me, have more kids, this and that… I have further pointed him to the fact that we NEED A PLAN FOR MY CHILD. I have threatened to tell his wife several times, and to completely cut contact… he agrees to strictly keep our communication about our son, but a week later he will wiggle his way into the same thing. Talking to me about how he wants to be with me and loves me, and wants to have more kids and be together. I have told him how hurt and angry I am and just want to figure this out or completely leave things be. He does send me $100 weekly for his son to provide and I respect that, but he ALWAYS avoids talking about meeting him, or custody/co-parenting plans… I mentioned it again last night for the 100th time and he said “I agree. 100% on board. Let’s talk tomorrow” he never even texted me today or said a single word… (he messages me every day at least once checking on his son) said he’d call me this morning and talk about things, went ghost again. He went ghost after he was born for 4 months, too until he recently came around telling me how much he’s missed talking to me and how “beautiful our son is” he talks about him like he’s been around or something. We’ve went and done paternity testing but the test got messed up. I have been SO cooperative with anything and everything he’d like to do here… it’s just a HOT MESS. Even his payments weekly are all over the place. Never the same day. Inconsistent. I don’t hate him or anything, he is a good man but I don’t even know what to do at this point…. I’ve filed child support but canceled it because I didn’t want to do that to him.
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Girl as soon as you said he has a wife, I yelped! I don’t know him, but that man is just a ball of confusion. If he’s doing this to you, imagine what he’s doing to her! Put him on child support since he cares to reach out about his child, but doesn’t care enough to be consistent! Don’t waiver, it’s not you doing anything to him, it’s him being held accountable for his actions!
The fact he’s doing that to her, and being inconsistent and unsupportive with you and his child, that doesn’t make him a good man!
I would be filing for child support, and then leaving it up to him to make time for his child. Not being around at all is better than being constantly let down by a parent, coming from experience.
I’d 100% be telling the wife also… if I was her I’d want to be told that my husband literally had a second family, he’d be out the door real fast 🥾
This is your moment to choose. Do I raise my child alone, or do I make him to take responsibility and fill for child support. 100$ per week will no go very far soon. Diapers and food are expensive and a Pilot can do better. I will 100% bring the law in or simply put out my child of this situation.
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