My sister is living my dream and I really don't want to start resenting her
Backstory: my sister is 4 years older than me and she started working as young as she could with paper routes and then fast food but her anxiety continued to grow until being in a workplace environment made her physically sick. She stopped working at the beginning of C0VID and her anxiety brought her to the brink of Agoraphobia. She talked to her family Doctor and he was able to start her on the path to recovery but it's a long process.
When I had my son she was there with me through the afternoon when my husband was at work and when I went back to work she would watch my son for the short time that my husband and I were both at work. I work 8am-5pm and he works 3pm-1am so there was only about a 3-4 hour overlap depending on travel time. So when my husband and I split he moved out and my sister moved in so that she could watch my son while I was at work. I am extremely grateful to her because she loves my son as much as I do and I am very lucky to have this option and my son is very lucky to have such an amazing Aunt. The longer this goes on the more I see my son clinging to her and going to her rather than me and it hurts my soul. I have to work to provide for my family but in doing so I feel as though I am missing out on being a mom. I count my blessings every day that I have such an amazing sister willing to take on the responsibility and I know that it's hard to essentially take on the role of stay at home mom to your nephew. I don't want to start resenting her for doing me such a big favour but I wish with all of my heart that I could be the one staying at home with my child.
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I think your feelings are totally valid. That is a really difficult position to be in emotionally. Of course you are thankful for your sister - your son is being cared for by someone who loves him. As his mother it’s only natural that you’d feel jealous of their time together, especially when he is so attached to her which is to be expected with how much time they spend together. I don’t know that I have any advice but maybe having an open conversation about how you feel with your sister. Not to arrive at any real solution but just as someone to confide in. Sometimes just getting those kind of feelings out in the open can help keep them from becoming worse.
I have thought of that. I guess I am just afraid of hurting her. It's not like there's anything either of us can do to change the situation
I totally get it, I would be afraid of that too and of course you know her best. I guess if the situation was reversed would you want your sister to be open about her feelings with you if something like that was bothering her?
Sometimes we can be afraid of opening up to others because we don’t want to be a burden on them but if you think your sister is still in a bit of a fragile place then I understand why you’d be apprehensive.
Aww 🥰❤ is there anyway that you can work remotely, at least sometimes so you can still be with your son more?
If your job doesn't have that option, would you be willing to look for something else that does? And then your sister can still help you out of course, especially if work gets really busy and your baby needs attention. But you'll be able to be around him more, and spend more time with him.
I also recently became a single mom. And I am so grateful that I'm able to work from home sometimes and stay with him. Sometimes I do have to go into the office though, and my mom or dad usually watch him when I do. I also babysit other kids at times, so I can have my son with me.
I am a detailer so my current job has no option to work from home. I would be willing to find a job I could work from home for but actually finding such a job is harder than I thought.
Message me. Theres someone on here looking to hire people for Primerica, I believe it's called. And its all remote.
Oh, I am Canadian
Do you want me to ask her if its still possible for you to be employed with the company? I believe u still could
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