Would you be okay with your partner going to EDM (raves) during your pregnancy?

I would not be ok but I’m also not in that lifestyle. If I were to be in that lifestyle though I still feel like that wouldn’t be ok. When you have a baby or having a baby sacrifices and growth need to happen. We are going to be taking care of something bigger than us and that’s when we have to mature and see what’s important. If going to raves was something you used to previously do and your partner expresses that they are uncomfortable than you stop. Point blank no questions about it. The baby is not here yet but you need to start making adjustments to make your pregnant woman feel safe and secure so she can focus on her body and growing her baby. Not only that but the illnesses he can bring home with your low immunity. So no I wouldn’t be ok With him Going during pregnancy or after unless we go together and it’s once in a while because joe the priority is the baby and your family unit.

Umm definitely not!

I wouldn’t like it. My husband went out with his friends 3 times since I got pregnant and ended up totally wasted and one of the friends has to carry him home, I specifically told him I don’t like that behavior and he needs to grow cause what if I need help while he’s out? It’s a no no for me. He didn’t seem to like it when I voiced it but I don’t think it’s fair that I’m getting bigger and bigger while he decides to go out while he still has time and leaving me alone until like 3am. Nope. That’s a no no.

If that was the norm before y’all got pregnant, I’d tell them to get it out of their system with the caveat that this is going stop or be significantly cut back on once you hit third trimester and baby is born. If you like to go to raves too then, come up with another agreement or compromise so you can also enjoy going once baby is born. Express that it isn’t being controlling, it compromising. It’s the necessary lifestyle changes that need to be made for the circumstances they agreed to get into. You’re not asking them to stop forever; they just need to be there for you and baby morally, emotionally, physically, and for safety in case something happens. Like the other comment said, your immune system is low and when baby is born, they will also be vulnerable. It doesn’t sound like what your asking is controlling. It sounds reasonable.

Hi I’m a rave mom. I think 5 is excessive and tbh he should be taking into consideration you can literally go into labor at any point now (that’s not meant to scare you. It’s meant to be a realization for him.) it doesn’t make you controlling. It makes him immature and absolutely ridiculous to not realize that this is a little bit of a taste of sacrificing some things we love for our kids. I’ve been to one festival while pregnant (ticket was bought before I knew) with my partner. We sat down and decided it wasn’t safe nor in the best interest of our unborn baby to keep attending. The money can be used towards items needed for our unborn baby. Well I hope he grows some sense for you and your baby!! I’m here to chat if you ever need too. Just don’t listen to his bs controlling comment. He’s wrong.

My husband went to Burning Man a few weeks back. I’m currently 25 weeks so I told him he can go only half the time which he obliged. He also knows that’s it for the time being and he likely won’t be able to go next year due to the baby being under 1. To me it’s all about compromise and trust, though I do think 5 raves since you’ve been pregnant is excessive and that’s where compromise on his part has to come in.

my husband is going to edc in november when i’ll be super pregnant so i feel you 🙃🙃 makes me sooo upset. i get they wanna have fun but it feels so immature to me especially with a baby on the way and new responsibilities. i’m the one that introduced him to raves so it’s my fault, they’re addicting lol. i grew out of it last year and now im repulsed by the idea but of course he still has to go. but 5 in 25 weeks is ridiculous!!