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I wanted to add that modeling it and having him practice those new behaviors will work better if he's not super upset. So find ways to help him calm down first (maybe a hug or whatever) and then once he's calm, practice the new behavior
I’m currently going through the same thing with my 3 year old. Some days are better than others.
I think you may want to reframe the ideas of right and wrong. There’s nothing wrong with saying you don’t want to be touched or asking for space. It’s the way he’s saying it. Is he getting overwhelmed? Is he getting enough time to go outside and play? Is he receiving enough sensory input throughout the day. Is he able to regulate his emotions. These are things that are more important than arbitrary ideas of right and wrong. At the end of the day, these kids are 3. We want kids who can advocate for themselves. We want kids who feel safe, who feel like their boundaries will be heard and respected. “When we want space, what do we say? Please give me space.” “When we don’t want to be touched, what do we say?” Maybe he doesn’t want to go to bed alone? Maybe your mom is making him uncomfortable? Kids are people too and they deserve to be treated like the individuals they are. Compliant kids are more likely to be abused.
Don't be too hard on yourself. Honestly, it just sounds like you have a pretty normal 3 year old on your hands. What he's doing is developmentally appropriate. There's a reason the term "threenager" exists. 😬🤷🏻♀️
First of all, you're doing a great job! Being a mom is hard work! I am currently working through a program to be a certified parent coach. Here are some suggestions I have. -in response to grandma touching your son.... I would say, "Hey X, I notice you pushed your grandma because she touched you. It's okay to tell her that you don't want to be touched, but it's not okay to push. Let's try something else instead when someone touches you when you don't want them to." And then I would do something like model saying "space please" or "no touching please". And you can show him to wave his hands in front of him to give that space he needs. At that age, he has little to no impulse control. Being consistent with this in the long run can help sooo much. The key to any behavior is giving an alternate way of responding. He may be repeating the same behaviors because he just doesn't know how to respond in another way. Think of what behavior you WANT him to show in those situations and then help him practice it.