Can my baby sleep alone?

I think it’s guidelines as part of the safe sleep recommendations. Sleeping in the same room reduces risk of sids and obviously easier to respond to your baby etc

There's significant evidence that a baby sleeping in your room with you for their first 6 months reduces the risk of cot death.

It’s because your baby uses your breathing etc to regulate their breathing when first born and the noise that we naturally make stops baby going into too deep a sleep. Massively reduces the risk of SIDS I believe x

It’s to do with reducing the risk of SIDS, they have done research to show that it dramatically reduces the risks of it by having baby in your room for the first 6 months. It’s also a comfort to baby as they have been inside you all warm and cosy and safe for so long that’s all they know, then coming out into the world is scary enough then to be left in their own in their own room will be super scary for them.

Room sharing reduces the risk of SIDS. And honestly after the 57th wakeup you won’t want to get out of bed and walk to another room. Being able to sit up in bed and grab baby from its bassinet is a million times easier.

My little one is almost 6 months now and I feel heartbroken about moving him into his own room soon 🤣🥹x

@Becky oh ok. That makes sense. My fathe just said it's cause ill be tired lol thanks x

@Katie thank you

@Keisha thank you x

@Emma thank you for this information. I wouldnt have known. X

Trust me when your baby wakes up happy and smiling at you, just to nurse and cuddle and drift off back to sleep it’s so beautiful and lovely … instead of crying their little lungs out wondering where you are and unable to self soothe even if it’s just for a minute - you will want them next to you and quite possibly in your arms, you will both sleep so much more peacefully! Do what feels right to you! The first 6 months are incredibly precious. I highly suggest this book. https://www.amazon.com/Safe-Infant-Sleep-Cosleeping-Questions/dp/1930775768/ref=asc_df_1930775768/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=509159807707&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=15028190630882840078&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9010585&hvtargid=pla-863258826671&psc=1

It’s totally up to you. If you feel like that’s the best choice then do it. For me the reason I had him in my room for a couple months was because I had a c section and really didn’t want to move. I wanted to just easily pick him up and put him down instead of having to walk over to his room. If that hadn’t have happened then being in his own room probably would have been great because no one would be waking each other up

@Anna understandable lol probably after the 3rd wake up for me

@Emma aww. But i already have to share the room with my fiance lol maybe ill send him to the babies room and then i wont feel like theres a lack of space

@Sky thank you i will defo have a read

@Marie thank you

@Gabrielle aww bless. Thank you

I had to at 8 weeks because I was waking paranoid multiple times during the night patting down the bed thinking she was suffocating (had never even been on our bed before). I set up a fan in her room the keep the air circulating around her at all times. I was terrified of SIDS though. As for the waking to feed, it was actually better for me. Hubby works shift work so I’d always take her out to the lounge room to feed each time. Felt safer too because I got up and went to a refreshed setting rather than laying with her tired.

I’m not gonna repeat what was said above about the recommendations but I will tell you that my son slept in his own room and crib since we brought him home from the hospital. He has always slept in his own room and crib and is now 14 months. My parents did this with my siblings and I and it was just something both my partner and I were comfortable with. It also worked well for us because my husband works long hours and commutes for work so him being rested was very important to his safety. Our son sleeping in his own room allowed me to still respond to him without waking my husband

This is the sleeping info recommended in Australia which might be helpful when deciding what works best for your family https://rednose.org.au/article/room-sharing-with-baby

No thanks, personally. I thought I'd use a bassinet next to my bed and ended up cosleeping. I want my baby close. Less distance to travel when they wake up every two hours to nurse. Good luck to ya though. The rate of SIDS is close to .038% and is being attributed more to brain abnormalities and overheating these days so I don't necessarily think room sharing is as great a preventative measure as we might think, for me it's about responding to his needs more quickly. I plan to transfer him to his own floor bed at six months once he starts solids and doesn't need to nurse during the night as much. And that way he can still fall asleep beside me before I creep off to my own room.

I think if you are going to put them in their own room them put some wearable tech on them like the breathing sensor in the mattress or the sock. Then you’ll be alerted if they stop breathing.

I put my baby in his own room at 2 months! But the first 2 months you’re feeding them every 2hrs like on the dot, and then doing a diaper change and putting them back to sleep so it’s way easier to have them close. Once their feeds stretch out to 3+hrs then I think you’re good to move them :) Me and my husband weren’t sleeping together when the baby was with me so it was really really nice once baby was in his own room. So I totally get wanting that space!

I’ve been told she has to stay in my room for 6 months (but I don’t really understand how it reduces SIDS tbh). However I’m going out of my mind. She is SO NOISY. I’m getting no sleep because she is constantly gurgling and squeaking and flailing and doing little cries, all while happily asleep. I ended up sleeping on the sofa last night because it was 4am and I was still awake.

On top of what has been said regarding safe sleep, having baby right next to you at night makes things sooo much easier. Baby doesn’t just wake up a couple of times for a feed, they can wake up so many times because they lost their dummy, or needs reassurance to fall back asleep, with a next to me crib not only baby senses you are right there which can sometimes be enough, but if they do need extra reassurance you literally just have to move a hand to reach him/her, believe me, after a few sleepless nights, you would happy to not have to get out of bed EVERY time lol

Before having my kid I was thinking the same thing but you can’t hear every single thing on the monitor no matter how good it is. I personally sleep better when he’s close otherwise my eyes shoot open every 5 seconds to check the monitor.

Above comments have said all the facts, so I won’t repeat them! But even with all the evidence with SIDS etc, you won’t want your baby away from you, ever! My daughter is 2 now and she’s still in with us (I sometimes regret I didn’t move her at 6m) but 90% of the time, I love it. Theyre so small and the world is new, going from a warm cosy, womb to an open cot alone just doesn’t sit right with me. But each to their own! We as adults who are in relationships don’t sleep alone so I’ve never understood why we force babies into their own rooms, (obviously when my daughter wants too, I’ll listen!) but for now, endless cuddles and smiles to wake up too, I never want it to end 🥰🤍 good luck!! X

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Baby needs to be next to you first few months for a variety of reasons - not least SIDS risks and comfort. But also you’ll be getting up so many times in the night so easier to have them near you. I couldn’t bear the thought of her not being next to me when sleeping so will def keep her in the next to me as long as recommended.

@Charlotte I have a noisy sleeper too. We have a white noise machine which seems to settle her and drowns out some of her noise for us, might help?!

@Niecey My daughter slept in the same room with me after birth because I was still healing and it hurt a little to walk far. It just was helpful. I say all mothers are different and do what works best for you and your baby .

You'll be tired either way because you're having a baby. I think you'll feel so differently when baby is here and want them in with you as they're so tiny and vulnerable. Anything that reduces SIDS sounds worthwhile to me x

My sister did that after a couple weeks. Right now with my second baby my husband and I are switching back and forth from sleeping in the nursery with our baby. It’s hard for me to sleep with him in the same room so we trade who gets to sleep through the night 😁

It reduces the risk of cot death. It's better to have you close by in the first few months.

I swapped over to the crib in his own room at 3 weeks once I was able to move around better (c section). The owlet gave more peace of mind and he was a great sleeper 😅 But my husband was gonna to return to work soon and I didn’t want his alarm to mess up our schedule, so it’s honestly whatever works for you/what you’re comfortable with

@Katherine this was me but now she’s 18 months and still with me lol. She sleeps in her own floor bed but with me there with her

@MaKayla this may be me too. Hubby is getting tired of this little octopus taking over the whole bed somehow but I don't want to leave him, especially since I work four days a week I feel like nighttime cuddles are our bonding time.

It’s just convenient if the baby is in your room since you’ll be getting up every few hours.

There’s a lot of comments so I don’t know if this has already been said, babies use is to regulate their breathing. They need to be close to you to do this. Babies also don’t realise they are their own person for a while. They are an extension of mum and it’s so important for their development that they feel safe and secure and in order to do this, they need to be close to mum. I’m assuming you’re still pregnant? I feel you may change your mind once baby is here (I absolutely don’t mean that patronisingly). My baby is 20 weeks old and has only just started napping upstairs and when she’s upstairs and I’m downstairs, it’s horrible!

Personally I’m anxious and want my baby in a bassinet next to me. BUT keep in mind a newborn wakes every 2-3 hours and needs to be fed, changed rocked etc so it’s easier most people have them close by. That’s the reason I didn’t do a full nursery, going to use our third room (which is also “my” room) as storage mostly and sitting area during day with him. Plus I also plan on moving soon after like when he’s 3months so didn’t want to have to move more stuff than needed

You might change your mind after baby is born, especially if your baby craves your comfort and warmth, mine refused to sleep in the bassinet and would only sleep next to us

Safe sleeping guidelines recommend baby sleeping in same room as you for Atleast the first 6 months. It significantly reduces the risk of SIDS. The sounds of your breathing regulates baby and helps them feel safe. Also they wake frequently for feeds, and it’s just safer in case their sick or anything in their sleep. Babies are clingy and need their mum close by.

For first month, my baby wanted to be on me 24h. If I was trying to put him down he was awake and crying. Only sleep in next to me crib with the open side and on my hand on him. Now he is three months and goes to sleep at 8pm and sleeps in his own crib till 12pm. But I want to sleep with him anyway, he supposed to sleep in his own room, but now I can’t imagine to sleep without him, so I’m planning to bring his big cot bed to my bedroom 😅

My eldest was in her own room at 4 months, obviously there's the risk of sids but ultimately it's up to you! It's your baby so do what you want but see how it goes, you might want them close to you or you might not. I always found them smelling me next to them helped them sleep in the first few weeks.

We put our son straight into his own bedroom,with no problem. We have a good quality video baby monitor with a sensor pad

@Olivia I fully agree! I adore having my son snuggle in with me to sleep - although he is starting to take up so much more space and I'm not sure how I will ever manage to move him into his own room 😂

Well my mum left us to sleep in our own rooms from day dot, and we turned out ok haha. There's no set rules on parenting, every journey is different x

@Heather I think your comment is unnecessarily harsh, while it’s not my thing either, is it actually very common to have a baby sleep in it’s own room straight away, you don’t need to agree with it, but you defo don’t need to be so horrible about it. We are here to help and advise each other, not to put each other down, if you don’t feel like giving some constructive and helpful criticism, just keep it to yourself

My baby changes his breathing just before he wakes and makes little noises, I then get a head start to get up and get a bottle ready or grab the breastfeeding pillow and nappies etc, I wouldn't hear this on the monitor x

@Heather that doesn't even make sense, the risk is currently 0.038% and plenty of those babies died with mom sleeping right beside them because they were, ya know, asleep.